(Guys Answer Please)?

Question

I met this guy last week from out of town. He approached me and my friend at the bar and we talked for hours. He asked me to dinner the next night and we went out the last few days he was here. He was supposed to leave Saturday but extended his stay until Monday. We went out the entire time. he said that he wants to still go out and that he could fly in to see me or I could fly out and see him sometime. He left Monday and since he's been gone he has only sent me two text messages which were brief that said hey there. and the other just replied to something I said. He hasn't called me just texted. I texted him today and he didn't respond. What is up with that? he persued me now he has just disappeared? Was he just using me for company while he was in town? Please help me figure this out.

Answer 1

seems like he was in town so he just wanted get to somebody, wheather he is serious or not, you really can't say. My advice is that long distance relationships often play a toll on the relationship, plus it messes with trust issues so your better of just no pursuing in any further and let him call you don't pursue him. If he really enjoyed your company and liked you he give make a better effort of calling you and engage in a caring conversation. But from what you wrote his response is not very caring. Don't worry about it, just pretend that you made a new friend.

Answer 2

Well there are two possible reasons i can think of.

He is a very busy man and is mostly looking forward to the next time he sees you.

Or

He is married.

If you feel sure his is not married then try not to read anything into this. Sense your a Goddess *smile* I would imagine you have plenty of other guys to keep you company.

Just know this. He had to like your company for him to extend his stay through a whole weekend just for you.
Give him time and try not to get to caught up in this. Remember this is still a long distance relationship so you need to keep that in mind.

Answer 3

my dear, first off, prepare yourself for a possible roller coaster..

I had this same thing, only the guy could drive back home, (we're a 3 hr distance apart) well.. we hit it off when he was here, he was 7 years older, but that didn't matter to us... well, he had to go back home, and he started to act funny/distant.. would text like this guy is to you... and it was just crazy.. well it got so upsetting for me that I just let it go... a couple months later he calls, and says all this stuff about how he was scared that i might find a guy in my home town, and that he is really sorry, that he misses me, and wants to start talking again, but after a few nights of great convos, he goes back to being distant... he called a week later with the same story as b4... and I did something I never thought I could... I told him i deserved better, and told everything that he made me feel and that he missed out on a great girl... i didn't say it all in a snobby way, but I stilll said what i needed to say... lets just say he came all the way back here to tell me in person how much he messed up, that he was truly sorry, and that he would leave me alone, but wanted to show me he truly was sorry....

nothing worked out between us, i was truly touched, but sometimes, no matter how sweet their actions may be, you can't let that be the weight that tugs your heart in one direction, sometimes you just aren't made for each other....

so while im not sying this will work out for you, or that it won't.. I'm saying, just be ready to stand up for your heart ... and don't let this guy hurt you... :)

Answer 4

I think he was just trying his luck. He might not be even serious about it. They think sweet talk could provide them with some chances to have sex. Could be one of the jerks as usual. Some men are just idiots! If you have his #, call him and ask him what's going on. My point of view is, if he is a serious guy who wants a good, stable relationship, he could have called you. He might probably have a girlfriend, wife, kids etc....... The best way is fly down there and check it out yourself. Sometimes is worth it this way because you could find out the truth that he might not be telling you. And this girl, will provide you the ans to your questions whether he is worth it to have!!!!!

Answer 5

I reckon you've hit the nail on the head...here today, gone tomorrow. Mostly people don't lie to achieve goals such as these. It's moreover a question of practicality once they've gone...that is to say that distance is not an easy factor to deal with. Anyway, you dont want a distance relationship...waste of heartache.

Good luck anyway

Answer 6

Ah he's married, and he can't call you, or write you, and he doesn't have any time this week, his in laws are coming over for thanksgiving dinner at his house, were he's the kind husband, and father of 2 kids, both girl, 6, and 4 years old, thats why

Answer 7

He's probably married and this was just a fling for him.

I've seen this happen before to my wife's former roommate. She met a guy in a hotel bar the night of her company Xmas party, and within a few weeks there was zilch in the way of contact.

Answer 8

He is probably married, or you were played.

Ok, you've known him for a week, so be cool. If he comes around, then fine, if not, there are three billion other men in the world, I'm sure you can find one.

My advice is relax and check for signs he's already attached.

Answer 9

Sounds like you were just convenient. Maybe he has a family, who knows?! If he does not call or text you within 3 days(and don't text him in that time), then you were just strung along and hanging on his every word. Don't feel bad, and chock it up to another experience and learn from it. :)

Answer 10

Most likely he met you after a few drinks. All he wanted is an adventure and you gave him the comfort. He thinks he is young again and he can pursue his next victom as easy as you.

Wel, hope I am wrong and I wish you good luck