How do I get my pregnant wife to slow down and take care of herself?

Question

She has a hectic and stressful job and, like busy people do, gets into the habit of loading herself with more and more jobs which keep her running around during her time off. Even when I offer to help and we agree I'll do a job for her, she'll change her mind at the last minute and decide to do it herself instead. It's driving me nuts, and I can't believe it's good for her or our child either.

Answer 1

Well, I worked in the auto field selling customers repair, quotes, dealing with customers, and many other things, I did it to keep me busy to make my husband happy while I was pregnant, and your wife is trying to show her job that a baby isn't going to slow her down. Tell her to relax and write a pregnancy book for the baby, why don't you go out and buy her the book, at walmart or babies r us, something that she thinks is perfect and tell her you want the baby to have a gift that you want to read to the baby once he or she is born, and that is the pregnancy book. She'll write about her pregnancy and she will slow down and realize a baby is on it's way

Answer 2

Buy a dishwasher. Also hire a maid for a couple of months to take the house work load off, yes thats a good idea. Or if thats no good for you sit your frantic wife down slap her in the face and tell her who is boss and tell her what you will be doing to ensure her and the baby will ok. After that cook a nice candle lit supper with some nice relaxing music or perhaps take her out for a long walk or fun exercise b4 the supper.

Hope that helps I made it all up and have no experience!

Answer 3

Actually keeping herself busy can be great for her physically but it can eventually have a n emotional strain on her. Tell her that you lover her very much and that her and the baby mean more to you than anything else. Explain to her that it is important to you that she takes it easy for the baby. If she agrees for you to do a job then tell her she can come with you to make sure it's ok because she probably fears that it won't be done to her satisfaction if she is not there, so this way she can be sure.
Maybe you can try and convince her to go for a nice afternoon stroll with you, that way it's relaxing and getting her away from work.

Answer 4

this is not good for your wife and unborn child. if she gets to streesed she will be less likely to take care of herself and this could effect the baby. She needs to work fewer hours or work out of the house and take breaks thru out the day. What might help her realize is a nice calm evening in a spa with no work and just realaxation. Soon she will be dedicating her whole life to a child and maybe feauture children. She needs to take 1 job and talk with her boss about it and have them both come to an agreement. if its simple things around the house you might want an inlaw to come and help out so she can relax and no she doesnt have to do all the cleaning. If i were you i might take some hours off work to help her even more if you dont have an inlaw that could help. your wife needs to realize how important it is for her to take care of herself such as getting off her feet, taking showers, getting ready for the baby to come but do little things at a time such as orginizing socks one day and sorting winter outfitts and summer ect. let her know what a wonderful mom she will be and what a great family you'll raise and be if she takes care of her self and does everything possible to try to make sure your child is healthy. dont let her do the jobs. do them b4 work or when she's out of the house so she wont have the chance. Good luck !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Oh how sweet. Start by showing her this question. You obviously care a great deal about your wife and child-to-be. Is it your first? Pregnant women are a lot stronger than you might think. If your wife is under a doctor's care and is being monitored, she is probably fine. And she knows her body and her limitations better than anyone. I wouldn't worry, although you are an absolute doll for doing so. Show her the question...really. If nothing else, she will be given another opportunity to feel your love.

Best of everything with your new baby!! (:

Answer 6

She's nesting - just like a momma bird flitting about. and she's probably worrying about getting as much done as possible beefore she devotes herself to the baby. Once she is in her last weeks she should stay active so she's physically prepared for her labour but just caution her against doing things she normally does not do - like horseback riding or salza dancing, could wrap the cord around baby's neck accidentally. My friend played her usual game of tennis 3 hours before going to hospital to give birth. Once baby comes, she will slow down! then you can take over. Just - to keep her from being anxious- ASK HER how she wants things done before you take over. She sounds like a perfectionist so if you do laundry diffrently, she will get crazy. Women have their own ways to run a house and if you keep to her routines ( e.g. sort laundry well, put soap in first, always use extra rinse, etc...) she will learn to relax and trust you. When baby arrives she will worship you for being so considerate!

Answer 7

I was the same way with my first pregnancy, and my husband would always try to tell me to slow down. Unfortunately, I never listened and we lost our child. Now we are pregnant again, and our son is healthier than ever. I did not keep busy for any other reason except that I am awork a holic. You wife has to understand the dangers of this. Work is never more important than your child. I hope all works out well for you ad your family. And congratulations!!!

Answer 8

if u know a job that needs to be done, just do it before she gets a chance to.

massage her feet so she can get into a relaxing mood. have her sit straight and give her a back massage. it feels nice to be pampered.

another thing i don't know how far along she is but a pregnant woman is not handicapped.

unless this is a high risk pregnancy or she is doing heavy lifting or moving or working around harmful fumes and chemicals she should be fine.

Answer 9

I am like that, I work as a chef for many years and worked the line 2 weeks before giving birth (with all three pregnancies). I think it is just her personality. Maybe take her for a trip to help her wind down.

Answer 10

Some women need to do things on their own. Don't take it personally that it's hard for her to accept help from you. Ask her doctor if what she's doing is okay and if it is then don't worry. Women are much tougher than they seem. Just make her happy in other ways like telling her how much you love her and that you appreciate her. That will help her feel happy and relaxed. (Make sure she eats well and takes her vitamins.)