How do familys do this go to work and come home and get sleep and family time?

Question

This is going to be the first time I have a full time job and 4 year old child at the same time. My husband has 2 jobs. And Im getting a job now. Im going to have to commute to work and drop off my daughter at day care and still have family time how does this work. How do people do it with out running them self into the ground.

Answer 1

it's all about time management and making sure you balance your life properly... not spending too much time in one area etc

Answer 2

I think I understood what you're trying to ask. As others have already stated, a lot depends on where you live. In my state, it's justified...to a point. Even if he's not armed with a gun or some other weapon it can be ruled as justified if there's a determination that an eminent threat exists. A bad guy doesn't need an external weapon to cause harm; hands and feet work pretty effectively, too. But if the bad guy turns and runs, then shooting the guy becomes a big problem for someone supposedly defending his home. Prosecutors tend to frown on shooting people in the back, even the real bad ones, despite the fact that in the big scheme of things all that's done is another piece of evil trash has been cleaned off the face of the earth. Whether it's ruled as legally justified by authorities or not, your legal troubles may not end there. It's unfortunately not uncommon for the bad guy's family to file civil claims against the shooter seeking monetary damages. Even if you ultimately win out, by the end you can easily be emotionally and financially drained as a result. And of course it gets a lot worse for you if you fire shots that miss the bad guy and hit an innocent bystander, your kids down the hall or your neighbor sleeping in the apartment or house next to you. There's a lot of potential burden that goes with pulling the trigger.

Answer 3

Live and work closer together. I used to have a two-hour commute. Now I work only ten minutes from home. That's three hours and forty minutes gained each day, or over 950 hours a year - that's almost 60 16-hour days.

You should constantly be on the lookout for good jobs close to home. Figure the cost of your commute and whatever daycare savings the reduced care time will get you and subtract that from your current pay to get your break-even pay for a local job.

Answer 4

They sacrifice their child's well-being by parking them at day-care and being too tired and frazzled to interact with them after work. It doesn't work. You'll be tired, short-tempered, lacking sleep. Your weekends will be all about trying to catch up on the laundry and shopping. The 4- year old will become whiny and clingy, which will make you more impatient. You'll expect your husband to "help out" around the house but he's already working 2 jobs. Your love life will suffer, and you'll resent him. He'll feel unloved and exhausted. Meals will be whatever you can throw on the table, with a lot of unhealthy frozen dinners (loaded with chemicals). Your child will start school and because neither parent has raised her, they'll say she has ADD and be put on drugs (she won't have ADD but the day care system and lack of connected parents will have already made an impact.).
Around the age of 8-9 you and your husband will be talking about divorce because you're always fighting (due to being so tired and not having any semblance of family life.)
No one will like this answer, but if you print it and and look at it 4 years later, you'll see that, sadly, I was right.

Answer 5

My finace & I both work full time. We have 3 boys. I get up early, take 2 kids to one school then take the littlest to daycare. I then go to work. After work I pick up all the kids & go home. I make lunches, do homework, put on jammies, make dinner etc. My fiance comes home and we are able to spend an hour or 2 togther then go to bed and start the whole thing over the next day. Weekends are very important. It's tiring but you get used to it.

Answer 6

They don't. Best situation for all is for the man to work and the woman to stay home. Sounds old fashioned but everybodys happy, most importantly, you get to raise your child. Reading your post though with your husband having 2 jobs it sounds like finances are real tight. Could you babysit in your home instead or do something else from home?

Answer 7

First of all, you can't have your cake and eat it too. You've chosen to have financial rewards over a family life. If you can survive without working, then don't work. Stay home and take care of your family. That is rewarding work. It doesn't PAY, but it is rewarding work. The person who rocks the cradle rules the world :)

If you can't stay home because of financial obligations that you've already made, then work to pay of those obligations quickly, then quit. And going forward, sacrifice. Don't buy things you don't need. Noone NEEDS a 42" plasma panel TV. No one NEEDS the latest SUV w/ 4 wheel drive and spinners for $50,000.00. Etc.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Don't think so much about it. And if you can't have family time during the week, just do it during the weekend. Like, go to the park or even just go to McDonald's and let your little girl run around and play and talk to you husband or what time. It dosen't take much to have family time. Even just a meal at the table can be good. Just don't think so much about it. You can do it you just have to give it time and work it out as you go.

Answer 9

I am not going to lie to you..
I have been doing it now for 11 years, since my child was the age of 1..

I am always tired, but we need the income..one income just does not cover everything and provide any luxuries these days ..
Its a sad, sad state we all have to endure..

I work 3rd, my hubby works 1st..
I go through phases were I am depressed and angry that I have to work like this, but I do it because I love my family and we all understand and grow accustomed to our hectic lifestyle..

It is going to be ok, you will work it out so you can be with your loved ones, it might not be as much as you would like..but I know it will be fine after you adjust...

Answer 10

You will work it out. There really isn't much time especially since your husband has 2 jobs. Maybe you can nap while he is at one, then he can wake you when he gets home and you can have some private, quiet, & peacful time. Good luck & Happy Thanksgiving.

Answer 11

they run themselves into the ground - period. But if they're lucky, they work together as a team to make things work and they get help from family and friends to keep things running like clockwork. (I sometimes pick up my friends' kids from preschool if they have to work late, or drop off a meal, etc.) It's about developing a good support network.