I haven't been speaking to my ex's mother in the past few weeks. My ex died last month and his mother has been awful to me. I took your advice and decided to give her some space. She wants my son for the holidays but I'm scared to let him go because her lawyer told her the only way to keep me from getting my hands on his social security was to get custody of our son. I just don't trust her but my son wants to see his grandparents. Do I take my chances and let him go or do I trust my instinct and keep him with me? What do you think I should do?
2006-11-22 04:39:18 · 11 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
DO NOT TRUST THEM. I don't want to see your story in the paper! I don't want to get an Amber Alert on your baby. Keep him with you. If he wants to see his grandparents, go with him, meet them in a neutral place, and DO NOT leave him alone with them. You're being very smart to wonder about it. Be careful. And, of all times to need him close, it's at a family holiday like Thanksgiving. You need his company way worse than they do.
2006-11-22 04:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstl sorry for your loss. Tough one. Your son has every right to see his grandparents, if you deny him that you are denying his rights and that could be held against you in a court of law. The grandparents can't raelly get custody of your son unless they can find you guilty of being an unfit mother. I hope you need your ex's social security to help you look after your son and not for your own benifit. Let the boy see his grandparents. I know he is young and very easilly persuaded to do as he is told or to be brain washed for other peoples benifit. Go see a lawyer and make arangements that he can be with his grandparents during the week of the holidays and be with you on weekends of the holiday. Why, Weekends are fun times for kids. no school playtime. During the week is routine time no kid likes a routine especialy young boys. If he can establish his grandparents as strict and unfun he will miss you a lot because he will see mom as fun time. The by-product of this is he will drive his grandparents nuts by crying or complaining for his mom(mom is fun, granny and grampa are mean) He will tire them out to get his own way. Phone him everynight and tell him the fun stuff you will do with him on the weekend get him excited about mom. and before you know it he will be back with you. play this one right you won't lose. Your his mom, and he knows that. Think back to when you were young, you loved your grandparents cause they spoiled you and you were glad to get away from your folks rules and regulations. Now make granny and grampa mom and dad, and you granny and grampa.
It is the perfect reverse play ever.
2006-11-22 13:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the boy with you if I were you. I don't like something of mine in the hands of somebody who would hate me.
2006-11-22 12:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your instincts Mom!!
2006-11-22 12:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the gut.
2006-11-22 12:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Joni J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your insticts and keep the kid with you!
2006-11-22 12:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not let him go over there.that is what she is trying to do
2006-11-22 12:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by antwan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the kid with you.
2006-11-22 12:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Judas Rabbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
P.S. Always trust your instinct's on problems like this.
2006-11-22 12:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-11-23 21:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋