At first it was a convience for me because I was breastfeeding and I would fall asleep. Now he doesnt sleep as long or as well in his own bed. What can I do?? PLEASE HELP!
2006-11-22 04:37:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am not all about "family bed" but I prefered to have my son in my bed in the beginning for ease of breastfeeding. Then it became a great bonding thing. My son slept in bed with us until he was about 18 months old (when I weaned him). After that I would put him in his crib. I went the whole "cry it out" method. Worked GREAT.
Put him in his crib and lay him down and give him love then leave the room. He will cry, that is normal. Leave a sippy cup of water (yes a soft tip sippy cup...not a bottle) in his crib so he can drink when he mouth gets dry. Come back every 5 minutes and soothe him and lay him back down (not staying more than a minute in his room). Continue in 5 minute intervals for 45 minutes. After that increase to 10 minutes until he falls asleep. It is not fun or easy. You have to stay very consistant. If you slip up one time and take him out to hold him you will show him you are soft. In about a week or two things will be great. He will have learned how to fall asleep on his own. Right now he thinks he can only fall asleeo WITH you. He doens't know how to comfort himself.
This works. I promise. You just have to stick with it. It will be hard to hear your baby cry. Trust me I did it. It broke my heart, but I look at him now (almost 3) and I thank myself for it. He knows when I say nap or bed time it means crawl in his bed for a story and then I leave so he can sleep.
2006-11-22 05:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Summer H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 6 month old is the same way. I kick myself now for letting him do it for so long but it was just easier for him and myself to actually get some sleep.
I am taking advantage of this holiday weekend off. I dont have to work for 4 days and I'm going to make sure all his naps and sleeping is done in his crib. Even if it means getting up 4 times during the night to rock him back to sleep so be it. I can't just let him cry as others suggest. I'm too much of a softy.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-22 04:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take your son a few days to get used to his new bed but he will eventually get to sleep OK. It took our daughter a few days and our son about a week. Try using the crib for all his naps for a day or two and then switch for all his sleeping. Once you make the change, don't let him back in your bed or it will undo everything. Good luck and sweet dreams
2006-11-22 04:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my daughter is 7 months and about a week ago i just started puting her in her crib what i did was i let her play in the day in the crib with toys and let her also take naps just to let her know that the crib is not a bad place to be and it not only too sleep and shes been doing good ill put her down at about 8pm and i wont put her down untill she is really tired i let her stay up as late as she can and then she will wake up between 12-2 in the morning and then take her to my bed. and then she will get up about 7am soon i think she will sleeo threw the night but it seem to be working for me it was also convinent for me because i still bgreastfeed her. well good luck i know its hard but your son will do it. I also give her some oatmeal in her bottle before she goes to bed so she stays full longer.
2006-11-22 05:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Desi & Dani's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be CONSISTENT with him. Put him in his bed, if he cries, i know its hard but you have to let him. Each time/day will get better. If you let him out of his bed when he cries he knows that's all he has to do to get out. If he stands in the crib or gets out just nicely go in his room put him back down or in bed and tell him its time for bed (try not talking to him to much) Kids are not as dumb as most people think, they know how to get there way no matter how little. If you keep letting him sleep in your bed it will just get even harder to brake him (Waite till hes talking a lot) and you and your husband are going to be crying that your sex life and alone time is gone.
Best of luck, but remember be CONSISTENT!
2006-11-22 04:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by AJK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 7 month old girl still sleeps in the bed with me, bc of the same reasons, its easier to breastfeed and more sleep. But what you can try is while he's still sleepy drowsy lay him down on his bed and turn some light music on or wave sounds.
2006-11-22 05:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!! I did the same thing with my son and he's 7 now and STILL wants to sleep in the bed with my husband and I. You better start him now in his own crib.
2006-11-22 04:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by juicyfruit_69_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him into his own bed right away. It will be hard on the both of you, but the sooner you do it, the better it will be. If you don't do it soon, before you know it, you will be sleeping in bed with a 10 year old...NOT KIDDING. He might fuss and cry but he will get used to it. Besides, it is not safe to sleep with a baby in the bed. It is not safe for the baby. It's easier for the baby to suffocate when it is sleeping with adults in their bed.
2006-11-22 04:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by LynetteG84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The sooner you get him out the better. My 7 and 4 year old daughters still sleep in our bed from time to time. What you have to do, is let him cry all night one night. If you can stand it, he will eventually cry himself to sleep. I know it sounds cruel, but eventually this will become routine to him and infants thrive on routine. For the sake of you and your husband/boyfriends relationship...DO IT NOW!!!!! Happy Thanksgiving!
2006-11-22 04:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him to sleep in the crib now while he is still young. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to get him out your bed.
2006-11-22 05:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋