2006-11-22 04:32:33 · 41 answers · asked by Ms.JackInTheBox 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That's awful. Your mom should be proud of you for being responsible for the mistakes that you have made, and accepting your new role as a mother.
If you do not want to kill your baby, then no one can make you. But also understand that you have just shocked the crap out of her. Give her some time to come to the realization that it's a baby - her grand baby - and not just some problem that needs to be taken care of.
2006-11-22 04:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hi honey I am so sorry your mom is putting that pressure on you. I wish there was something I could to to help. But just remember this that if God didn't want you to have this baby then he would have never blessed you with this child. I also had a child at your age 17 my daughter is now twenty and in college and there is not a day that goes by that I am sorry that I decided to have her. It was the best thing I have ever done in my life having her. I am now married with a two year old and a six month old and she is a great big sister when she comes home from school. I am not saying it will be easy for you it was difficult giving up alot of things to be a good mom and being so young. Just make sure you finish school and try to go to college if possible. Your mom will have a change of heart once the baby comes too. Good luck with your decision but just remember it's your baby and not your moms. It's your baby and Congratulations on your pregnancy I hope it all goes well. The baby shower is so much fun too!
2006-11-22 05:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by mary3127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult question to answer. You are probably going to get a lot of people on here telling you to listen to your mom, saying that you're only 17 and blah blah blah... and you're probably going to get a lot of people on here talking about how abortion is murder and blah blah blah...
The truth is that you are the ONLY person that can decide this for yourself. I can only offer you advice on how to make the decision. Either way you go your life will be changed. You need to think about the physical and emotional effects of either option and weigh those against what you know about yourself and what you can handle.
I'll give you some examples from my own life. This may be a little personal and people may not want to read it, but if it'll help I gotta share:
I was raped when I was 20 years old. I got pregnant (had nothing to do with the rape) when I was 21. I knew that with everything I had been through that I could not have an abortion at that time in my life. The emotional ramifications of that would have been increadibly detrimental. So I kept the baby. I absolutely love being a mother.. it's the most amazing thing I've ever done and has helped me to get through a lot of my issues with being raped. Actually, forced me to deal with them so that I didn't let them effect my daughter's life in a negative way. Let me say though, that being a mother is difficult! It is the hardest, most trying thing that a person can do.
I have, however, had an abortion. And I do not regret it. But it did have traumatic effects on me. It's a difficult thing to go through. It is quick and close to painless, but a confusing thing. It changes things to think that you had a life growing inside you and then it was gone.
You are in a very difficult time in your life and my heart goes out to you. I hope that you make the decision that is right for you. If you choose to become a mother, do it with everything you have!! Give up ALL the things that are necessary to keep your child safe and take care of and protect the child AT ALL COSTS! If you choose to have the abortion, do it because you think it is the right decision for you.
Hope this helped.
2006-11-22 04:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by ceaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, No, hun please don't have an abortion that is murder to an unborn child. She is so wrong to make you do this. This is your baby and you choice. As long as you can take care of the baby it should be your choice. If she won't let you have it then give the baby up for adoption. There are many people that want babies that cant have them. Abortion is not the answer you will regret it later in life. It's possible if you do have an abortion you may not be able to have children when your older. I do suggest that you talk to a clergy or someone from planned parenthood if you haven't already with your mom to make a better decision with the baby. I know in your heart that you know abortion isn't the answer either. Good luck and take care of yourself! Happy Thanksgiving!
2006-11-22 04:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
17 and pregnant. I can't imagine how hard that must be. I don't think abortion is a good idea either.Would you be able to cope if you had this baby? where is the baby's father? Can he help you?Even if this is not the case you can always put the baby up for adoption. Is there anyone besides your mother than can support you financially and emotionally throughout this trying time? If there is I suggest you ask this person for help. You have to do what you believe and what is best for you. Best of Luck.
2006-11-22 04:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Narissa J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are very young, yes, but an abortion is completely wrong. There's always adoption if you cant handle it. I had a stillbirth about 10 months ago and believe me, you would feel the pain of the loss of a child if you go through with it. I am 25 and pregnant with my fourth. Im due Dec 29. Please dont harm your baby like that. God has blessed you with a wonderful gift and youll be happy that you kept him/her. I hope this helped and I'll be praying for you. God Bless!
2006-11-22 05:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by debra u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom if she wants to murder someone, go find someone else besides your baby! If you want that baby, keep the baby and love it with all your being! It would be hard, but God will get you through. If you can't handle a baby, look into adoption. Tons of loving couples want babies and can not concieve. So, tell your mom to get bent and make your choice! GOOD LUCK!
p.s. Minor or not....she CAN NOT legally force you to abort! So, don't let her scare you with anything like that.
2006-11-22 04:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nooooo! Don't do it. Its your baby not your mom's, besides having an abortion is like killing your own child. I'm 5 weeks pregnant myself and I love my child already very much, I know I would be devastated if I were to loose him or her. Really don't, If you dont want your child you could always give him up for adoption, there is more than a million people who wish they can have kids and want to adopt, give them a chance if you want to. But please dont kill the child to me and to many other people its a sad crime.
2006-11-22 05:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by jackier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to you - if you don't want to do it then don't. I know it's going to hard but I think you're making the right decision by not aborting the child. You never know, that child might be all you have when you're old and need someone to help you.
I just want to share with you that my mother was young when she had me and my father wanted he to abort me, she was going to - she even went to the doctor's appointment - but she decided not to. Now, I help her out when I can and there are times when she needs something and I'm the only one that she can come to.
So stick to your guns, you're doing the right thing.
2006-11-22 04:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want one don't get it. Explain to her why you don't want to go through with an abortion maybe she'll understand. Here in Texas you'd be considered a legal adult. Which everywhere else you almost are. Its really up to you what you wanna do. Maybe you could ask her why she wants you to have one and tell her what if she would havehad one with you would se regret it. I'm sure she couldn't imagin living her life without you ever had been being in it.
2006-11-22 04:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋