My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I want to bring him home for Thanksgiving, however the majority of my family consists of conservative Southerners. My parents have met him, however I'm not so sure they would want the pressure of having to introduce him to the entire family. Their views towards homosexuality have changed since realizing that I'm completely "normal," however I don't know if they are ready to accept my boyfriend as family. I'm completely out and I want to take my boyfriend home with me, but I don't want to pressure my family into a situation they are not prepared for...
2006-11-22 04:20:21 · 12 answers · asked by ThisMess 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it must feel very hard ,but if your mom and dad accepted it well who cares what other family members think first talk to your parents about family dinner and if they would feel comftable having your boyfriemnd at the dinner table if they dont approve it well they arent letting u be happy and maybe u should think of having family thanksgiving dinner with your boyfriend instead cause family accepts all that comes with it and tell them that is not like you guys are gonna be holding hands or kissing just there sharing family moments and forget about what other family members will say cause believe me family members always talk about each other no matter if u are gay or not believe me enjoy your life and forget the rest congrats
2006-11-22 04:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by jocysoul 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Tab H. First ask you Mom if she would want this or not. the problem is not your mom but the whole extended family and other guests. I prefer to avoid controversy till I am sure of a nice reception. Don't pressure your Mom either. Spare her feelings.
2006-11-22 06:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by blackbird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Conservative Southerners??!!
Better to take him out to a nice restaurant,just the 2 of you,on Thanksgiving.
2006-11-22 04:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are "out," then you should be open enough to discuss the matter with your parents. Assuming that the event is happening at their home, they should be consulted first. Just the fact that you are asking the question here makes me think that it may not be the proper time or place to show up with your boyfriend. If the event were happening at your place, then I would say "yes" without hesitation.
2006-11-22 04:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think Aerlys is right. Consult who ever is hosting. If they want you in their household with your partner, then the other guests should go along with it. If they don't want you to come for moral reasons then don't go and give them your opinion. If they don't want you to come because of what the others will do, don't go and don't take it personally.
2006-11-22 04:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just bring him along...he is your family now....and just leave it at that..if the family wishes to discuss the issue, then do it very professional my dear..hold your head up high and fight for your man....and tell them he helps with bills and other duties as assigned...and if I were you, I'd make a joke like "At least I can't have kids" HaHaHa..Although been there and done that honey...and also raised 4 kids who are already adults and raising their own...Gayly forward..sister...or another term between gay sisters is "Twisted Sister"....Glad to share gay terms with you...
2006-11-22 05:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then don't come home or don't bring him home. If the time is not right then the time is not right.
2006-11-22 04:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask your parents. If they're hosting, then they should have some input. If you don't like their answer, neither of you have to go.
2006-11-22 04:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call and talk to them about it. It's either that or play "roommates" for the day.
2006-11-22 04:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your Mom and ask her opinion and do what your Mom says - that is ALWAYS good advice.
2006-11-22 04:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋