His condo is right next to mine and we had been running into each other for the last 4 weeks and making small talk.Im single and he is going thru a divorce.We have alot in common including our interest in movies but i saw him alot with anouther women so never pursued him.He invited me over one night to see a movie we both wanted to see.We spent half the night just talking then out of the blue he said i really want to kiss u.I was taken back and said u have a gf i have seen u with her.He went on to tell me he was free to date other people and they were just really freinds and it was none of her business if he dated other people. Here it is 4 weeks later and she still does not know about me and yes they are more than just freinds.He will not anwser my calls when she is there and he will not anwser her calls when im over.I feel like i'm just convenient for him and she is the real gf.He takes her to the movies,dinner,shopping i get to sleep over.He he really loves her why does he need me?
2006-11-22 04:12:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cut him loose. But first, when his girlfriend is over drop in and tell him in front of her that you've been thinking about that kiss he offered, but you really don't think it would be a good idea and that he should stick with his girlfriend.
That way he gets the trouble he deserves, and the gf can't accuse you of trying to take him from her.
2006-11-22 04:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, all guys say that they are free to date, what they do not say is the woman is free to date, (or she is, but out the door the next day) And how he is treating her is exactly how he will treat you, if you ever do make ff. It is 4 weeks later, she does not know of you, they are friends, but, it is none of her business if he dated other people. It not like he needs you, he just needs a conquest. My advice be an acquaintance and maybe even invite them both over for dinner, to see and hear the TRUTH for what it is.
2006-11-22 04:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jamaison D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is "He really loves her, why does he need me?"
Who is saying or has said that he loves her? Who says he needs you?
It sounds like he finds you attractive and available for sleepovers, and you are feeling slighted because she gets to go with him to movies, dinner and shopping.
You have found him to be a liar. He has told you that that he is secretive. If he is unable or unwilling to be truthful, how able is he to love in a healthy way?
What do you want from him? Are you content with what you are getting? If you are, good for you. If not, you cannot change him, you can only change yourself and your expectations.
2006-11-22 05:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but it's because you are easy. You require no work, effort, let alone investment. Besides, he has someone else to take out. Think about it. Have some respect for yourself.
Oh, and P.S. he is no where NEAR a "great guy". wake up!
2006-11-22 04:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Miss smarty pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness. He is using you. Be a proud woman and cut him loose. Go out with family, friends, have your hobbies, etc. to keep yourself busy and ignore him so he will feel like a jerk. He is a jerk.
2006-11-22 04:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Camille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they guy is a liar.
when you're dating someone, they should know that they're not the only one, and i can guarantee you that the other girl doesn't know about you.
how do you think you'll feel when there's a third one to contend with?
2006-11-22 04:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a clue because you need to get one.....
Great guys dont lie about having girlfreinds and run around being stupid!!!!!!
2006-11-22 04:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve made yourself way too available.
2006-11-22 04:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go, do you need drama?
2006-11-22 04:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by Михайловна 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋