His condo is right next to mine and we had been running into each other for the last 4 weeks and making small talk.Im single and he is going thru a divorce.We have alot in common including our interest in movies but i saw him alot with anouther women so never pursued him.He invited me over one night to see a movie we both wanted to see.We spent half the night just talking then out of the blue he said i really want to kiss u.I was taken back and said u have a gf i have seen u with her.He went on to tell me he was free to date other people and they were just really freinds and it was none of her business if he dated other people. Here it is 4 weeks later and she still does not know about me and yes they are more than just freinds.He will not anwser my calls when she is there and he will not anwser her calls when im over.I feel like i'm just convenient for him and she is the real gf.He takes her to the movies,dinner,shopping i get to sleep over.He he really loves her why does he need me?
2006-11-22 04:12:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow your instincts, lose him.
2006-11-22 04:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason that this guy is going through a divorce. And the reason may be that he is a lying, manipulative and unreliable human being. It sounds as if he is an expert at drawing women in, only to push them away when a better prospect comes along. He sounds immature and emotionally unavailable also. Do yourself a favor and give him short shrift. You sound like a nice person who deserves much better in a love interest. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 04:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You see whats going on. He is having 2 women. Back out of the equation--2 is company--3 is a crowd.
2006-11-22 04:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing the field and enjoying his newly single status.
He is playing with you and her and his wife!
He is a player sweetie, don't bother with this monkey out of a cage. You are in for heartache (and probally an STD) if you keep on persuing this loser.
Good luck
2006-11-22 04:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a skank. Get over it sweetie. The guy is a player. Stop taking his calls; be nice, but tell him that you choose not to see him on a personal level anymore.
Btw, he is showing you exactly what he would do to you if you were in her shoes. Don't you deserve better?
2006-11-22 04:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be for real, this even sounds like a B___y call if you open your eyes to the truth. He only see you when she's not available, and he don't intend to take you anywhere because he's taken.
2006-11-22 04:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is oviously not looking for any long term relationship. What are you looking for? Fun, a friend, a lover, a futre ex-husband. Think of what you want first then make a decission. You know his attitude towards the sittuation. Accept it or you make the change.
2006-11-22 04:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Max Danger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it to and doesn't care who gets hurt in the process.
I would comfront him in front of the "g/f" and get this over with because she needs to know what a jerk he is to.
Good luck!
By the way. Move on AFTER give him a piece of your mind.
2006-11-22 04:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple. Men do what women "allow" them to do. So as long as you accept it, we'll keep dishing it out. We prey on your feelings and emotions until we get the same thing done to us, then we grow up.
2006-11-22 04:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Stan4something 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves HER.. why would YOU bother with HIM? That should be the question. If you know for a fact that he is doing this stuff, then DONT waste your time on him. Maybe this is why he is getting divorced as well... he cant commit to ONE girl.
2006-11-22 04:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs you because he is a dog that wants to sleep with multiple women.
2006-11-22 04:16:20 · answer #11 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋