would you want to hold the baby or not hold the baby? I would not want to hold the baby because it would be very depressing to me and I also wouldn't want to see him/her.
2006-11-22 04:03:22 · 17 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my aunt gave birth to a stillborn baby and she never got over it. She also saw the baby shrink after a few hours.
2006-11-22 04:07:36 · update #1
Jess-me- that's why I put "Trigger" next to my questions, to avoid sensitive people like you, from answer it. No one is making you answer my questions.
2006-11-22 04:09:39 · update #2
I think it's easier for me to get over it if I didn't hold or see the baby. If ended up holding or seeing the baby, it would traumatize me.
2006-11-22 04:13:51 · update #3
I think it's easier for me to get over it if I didn't hold or see the baby. If ended up holding or seeing the baby, it would traumatize me.
2006-11-22 04:13:52 · update #4
Mum 2 Many- this is why I put "Trigger" next to my questions, to avoid sensitive people like you from answering it. Your negative response is more traumatizing than my questions, talk about hypocrite.
2006-11-22 04:29:09 · update #5
I would hold, hug and kiss goodbye. I would give him/her a name and have him/her buried. I would thank the Creator for choosing my child and for the privilege of bearing a son/daughter for the Creator.
I would be sad for myself, but filled with joy for the child.
2006-11-22 04:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've had multiple miscarriages though none of them were large enough to hold. I would have liked to be able to say goodbye by holding them. I also used to co-ordinate the funerals at the church I worked for and at one time we had a string of late term miscarriages and still births. Some moms chose to hold their child and some didn't. It is a hard choice and one that only the mother can make at the time she is faced with it. Medicine has come a long way in saving the lives of babies and so we forget just how fragile life is. It is not until we are personally face with the death of an infant that we can truly say what we would do.
2006-11-22 13:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw the grey's anatmony episode of that, a woman fell and broke her arm and the baby died. I would want to hold the baby, because I would regret it if I never did, you carried that baby for 9 months and you still have a baby. That is still your child, cherish that moment when you get to hold the baby
2006-11-22 12:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would want to hold the baby for as long as I could .I had identical twin girls 2 month early and one of my girls died when she was 6 days old in my arms i didnt stay long because I didnt want to see her not alive and that was the biggest mistake I ever made every day I wish I could have gone back and hold her as long as I could because I miss her so much and I really regret it at the funeral I made them keep the casket close when I came in I dont regret that but I regret not spending as much time with her as possible.
2006-11-22 12:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by sar sar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter Susan A. (s/b 12/22/1988)
The Compassionate Friends helped me to face life after I had my first child who was stillborn. The hospital gave me time to grieve and gave me pictures of her...she had reddish blonde hair and that's what I remember most.
Every child is a child of GOD, and mine went to heaven before me...and that's why I cry...in the back of the church ....because it was 3 days before Christmas.....and even now...the tears come back as I write this.
I try to send a gift to the Compassionate Friends as often as I can because they help other people face the death of their child. It gets easier as time passes, but you are a mother forever....they taught me that...they taught me to make lemonade out of the lemon that life handed me.
So when I went to Disneyworld - Orlando in 2006, I bought a brick in honor of Susan A. (s/b 12/22/1988) to honor her memory....at a happy place that I would have taken her....she truely has a special place in my heart forever. I also donated a plaque in her memory at the Catholic High School when it was built.
It helps to contact this group, and I hope your aunt contacts this National organization. You are a great help to her and can help her keep going...and still love.
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/
2006-11-22 12:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want to hold it. I would have carried it for 9 months so I would want that closure. It is hard to say for sure but I think I would want to hold the baby and at least show it that I loved it.
2006-11-22 12:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would hold the baby if I had a still born it's my child . It's very sad when someone loses a child at any age.
2006-11-22 12:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by mary3127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes to holding the baby, give it a hug...you need the closure to say goodbye...it just wasn't meant to be this time...
2006-11-22 12:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Shaula 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id hold the baby...just to know what he or she looked like...smelt like.....features they had....and say our goodbyes....that would be devastating but id want to know what they looked like and what it would of been like ....i dont want to think back in 10 years and say yeah i had a baby it died but i have no idea what it looked like...
2006-11-22 12:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all a matter of personal preference. No two people would have the same response.
2006-11-22 12:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋