An ex is that he thought someone turned on the heat, our daughter got mouthy and he exploded right in her face! It takes days before he starts talking to anyone again. Otherwise he is the funniest most caring person. I've learned to remain calm because otherwise he gets worse. He will talk about it but doesn't seem to be able to control it. Sometimes he says it is okay for him to get into people's faces and othertimes he knows it isn't. I am about to give up. I don't want to divorce him but his anger issues are ridiculous.
2006-11-22 03:57:39 · 15 answers · asked by Kuki56 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is called verbal and emotional abuse. You and the children need to leave with the ultimatum you will not be back until he gets help for his anger issues.
2006-11-22 04:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy. He may be bi-polar or have issues with depression. Your behavior seems very co-dependant, since you have to remain calm for fear of provoking him unknowingly.
He could also have a drinking or drug problem.
I have clinical dpression, and when I do not take my meds I can fly into a rage, telling my husband that I hate him, I want a divorce, I can't stand to look at him, and other very hurtful things.
If he starts to talk about suicide, then he most definitely needs help. People with anger issues usually hate themselves more than anything in the world and think a lot about dying.
Don't give up, but know that you don't have to live in fear and things can change for the better.
2006-11-22 04:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he holds in his frustrations and then blows. At least he's not violent. But it would still be better if he learned how to release it earlier and avoid those big explosions. Ask him to see a counselor. He/she can suggest ways that he can vent his anger on a regular basis. In the meantime, try getting him to take up some form of regular exercise.
2016-03-29 05:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the houseIf he is concerned about the heating bill and wants to keep the heat turned down then so what? If your daughter turns around and gets mouthy why don't you put her in her place to let him know that you are on his side and that children don't get mouthy to parents or they face the consequences! Why does he always have to be the bad guy and instill discipline? Have you ever thought of WHY he is getting angry and tryin to work with him on it? If it's time to discipline kids both of you need to do it so that he doesn't always look like the malcontent.
2006-11-22 04:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to deal with his anger issues. Tell him to try and get help through some anger management courses. Make him realize that his "anger" is driving you away. If he is unwilling to get help through counseling, divorce would be an option. For it's not fair on you and your daughter to have to put up with his "episodes". Good luck!
2006-11-22 04:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has struck you then there is no choice but to leave him however you can now see anger management couciling if you are sure it will help, but remember once a man hits a woman the the seice to be a man..
I am a man and I would never hit a woman no matter how angry I get.
2006-11-22 04:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tazman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him frankly that you cannot put up with his anger. He has to learn to control it if he wants to continue having his family with him. Being caring after being abusive is no excuse. If you can not bear him you need not bear him. Life is short. You should have a quality life with or without husband.
2006-11-22 04:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is bipolar? On the times that he does actually regret it, talk with him about anger management classes. They will teach him not to act like that. He knows it's wrong, and no one wants to be looked at like a crazy hot head, so try the classes.
2006-11-22 04:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets angry from time to time, but the important thing is how we handle it. He's losing control of himself then trying to control others with his silence. If he is unable to control his anger and using it to control others, then it's very simple -- he has anger management issues and should see a therapist. If he won't see a therapist, then I would see a lawyer.
2006-11-22 04:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking up for him and do whatever you need to for yourself & kids if there are any. He knows what he's doing, and refuses to get help so, if he don't care about it causing his marriage to fade then he's not worth making an effort to be with any longer. Love will cause you to go through hell for as long as you are willing to let it take this course. Open your eyes for your happiness, life is too short to be used.
2006-11-22 04:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋