that really depends if can still love her and she is sorry for what she has done
also, ask your self, who was to blame for this
2006-11-22 03:53:22
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answered by The brainteaser 5
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Ooooohh, way too many unknown elements in the background that you don't give. Some scenarios would require a "yes" answer... . while other scenarios would demand a resounding "No Waaay". I don't believe there is an absolute clear-cut, rigid, "policy ruling" on this kind of human situation. We are all different creatures, and the things that govern our emotions at any time are innumerable. How many times has the "offender" committed the offence? Have you, yourself, ever committed the same act? Is the "offender" contrite, and is the contrition credible? What are the strictly practical considerations for either terminating the relationship, or trying to mend it? In the case of infidelity.... would the child be possibly more harmed, by trying to continue in the marriage when the "harmed party" remains full of anger and distrust, so that the atmosphere around the child is negatively charged, and potentially explosive? Only you know the answers to such questions. I wish you well, in coming to the right decision.
2006-11-22 04:28:15
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answered by Anonymous
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This is a really tough ?. Was the affair a continued one or was it a one night stand? Either way, it's horrible and your family is going to have to seek help to get through this. Don't do it for the sake of your son-you will just become more bitter than what you are now and the relationship will fall apart either way. But if you love her and if you think that somehow you 2 can work this out without you killing her or the other person, then do it.
2006-11-22 03:55:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Why did she cheat? That is really the question you should be asking yourself. If there is a really good reason then you must definitely think about it. It will be good if you could spend some time apart and you need to reflect, you need to understand that it will take you a long time before you can trust her again. Remember not to be in a relationship just for the sake of the kids, it just would not work and they will be the one suffering. For better for worse...maybe this is the worse and you got to understand sometimes we do things because feeling unhappy. Good luck and keep us posted
By the way from the way you wrotw the question it seems like she had the affair for the sake of your son. I doubt that!
2006-11-22 04:10:04
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answered by Mrs Sardinia 2
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Yes give him another chance but find out by having a frank discussion the reason why. You to look at yourself and ask was it something that you did. Was it an attitude you adopted. Talk it through first and work on the solution this time. If it happens again then he is just a serial affair man and it will go on and on regardless.
Then, regardless of your son you must take the appropriate action.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 04:03:37
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answered by Anonymous
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It will only work if you can truly get past it and truly forgiver her. If not your anger and resentment will come through and will make you bitter over time. You also need to figure out why it happened, would it be likely to happen again and if you and your wife love each other and are committed to fixing the problems in your relationship that lead to the affair. Only you and your wife can answer these questions. If you can't trust her or rebuild that trust then I would say no. It is a lot to think about and both of you need to be honest about how you feel. Good luck!
2006-11-22 03:57:21
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answered by notaxpert 6
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If your wife had an affair there is something missing in the marriage.Until that is fixed she will always be tempted to have affairs.You need marriage counseling to figure out why she had the affair.Only then can you fix the problem and truely forgive her.A bad marriage is worse on your son than a divorce.
2006-11-23 12:02:44
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answered by Phobic12 1
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YES! Most definitely yes! Not for religious reasons although they do come into the reason. But for your son.........EVERY BOY DESERVES HIS FATHER. Do not allow your wife's infidelity to deprive the boy of his needs. Your child owes you nothing, and you owe him everything.
When your son has grown and left home to strike out on his own then make your decisions. But until then your vows to your wife hold you to your sons well being. Suck it up. Do not make her pay. Do not take it out on her. Do not abandon her. If you do these things then the boy will suffer. You have to be a better man than what you think you are. You should know that God gives no man more than he can handle. You can do this and I believe you must. I wish you well because I've been down that road and I'm telling you... take this out on your wife and the boy will lose, and you will lose the boy.
2006-11-22 04:43:11
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answered by the old dog 7
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You'll not be doing your son a favor if you forgive you wife and live in a house filled with tension and anger. He'll sense it and learn that's what adults do AND feel guilt. You forgive for yourself if she is repentant and you have reason to believe the reason she had the affair is gone and no longer a problem.
2006-11-22 04:02:26
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answered by DelK 7
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This is such a personal question. In the relationship is two people, and there is only these two people that really knows what goes on between the two. I mean...you dont have yahoo in your living room, bedroom at night!. You and your wife are the only two people who know what relationship you have with one another. Is there fun?, family life?,...Other than the affair, are there any other problems? How much attention do you pay her/she pay you? Its a shame, I really do feel for you on this...hope it works out. Would love to hear a happy ending, hope you give us an update. Its up to you. Good luck!
2006-11-22 08:26:24
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answered by clare p 3
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You have to ask yourself the cause- you,both of you or her-and is it solved? Will it happen again, was it a problem or a character flaw. Can you see it as a separate thing from your wife or will it stand between you and your life together? Marrige and love are the hardest work you'll find, the best of us have had it hard too (20 years for me!) We had what we called our walking through hot lava years....we learned and now ask ourselves how we could have been so "dumb". Its 3 peoples lives not just your son's. Too bad your wife couldn't think before she leaped-sorry for your hurt,but it will never take away the gift of your child!
2006-11-22 04:00:16
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answered by ARTmom 7
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