How Do I Deal With Rejection?

Question

Hello,
Love forums like this where people can share their information, which I love doing myself.

In that area, I have a question: How Do I Deal With Rejection?

I am a deep thinker and informationalist, have been since I was a child. I love finding out about new things that are either fun or beneficial to life changes, and also love sharing my found goodies with others. But it's hard sometimes, especially in the area where I live, to share information with people who are too busy to listen, yet ask what you can do for them.

I feel sometimes like just closing down and if someone asks, why even bother to share.

I feel so excited about things that I find and love helping others, but I think hope leaves them and they don't see the potential of what I tell them.

How can I get over this?

Answer 1

Sadly, I am a bit like you are! We are a dieing breed and the only peace I have been able to give myself is that we will soon be highly sought after! People have become more self absorbed and selfish giving people like ourselves an never ending supply of good deeds to occupy our time! However, I have found a way to allow my nature to come out without the need to 'close down'. I have begun to keep a running tali in my head that protects me against those that I know have no interest or little time for me! I surround myself with those people who truly care and respect the person I am and in turn am able to share with these people the joy of being me! Every once in a while I find myself becoming a bit strangled by the negativity that seems to feed the world and have to force myself to step back and pause!
It takes some time to truly organize yourself into a field that comforts yourself and those around you but in the long run it is worth it. You find yourself displacing the bitterness you began feeling invading your life, and turning it into a positive force towards strength.
Don't be discourage by where you are, because I am in a similar area! Fortunantly I am a quick learner, and sensitive towards others and there physical reactions to me. If you are who you say you are, you too, have this ability. People will begin noteing your discomfort with them and begin asking you questions. Start slow! Answer with only short non personal responses! Smile and be kind, and eventually they will come around. If, they do not, stay away!

Good Luck
Blessed Be

Answer 2

rejection for anything? if and when i deal with rejection and failure, this is my thought process: Of course, I first feel disappointment and shame at "losing." I then feel anger, mainly at myself. Then, I close of all my feelings and I heal myself emotionally by slowly distancing myself from the situation. Then, I'll continue to pursue until I get what I want. Throughout this whole thing however, I kind of subconsciously keep a stony and non-caring look plastered on my face. Although, if we're talking about love here, then I would guess that it would either make me want the person more, or I would decide that they're not worth it and become cold emotionally (although they wouldn't be able to tell because I would still act warm towards them). But I rarely ever openly pursue, so I've never actually faced rejection in that matter.

Answer 3

To me, rejection was and is away of life. If it wasn't for bad luck, I wouldn't have any at all. Over coming my rejection, from schools, coworkers, teachers, friends etc. I took walks in the forest, along the beach, listen to music, You name it. Agreed at times I still feel the rejection. However I have one thing thats a sure fire remedy. My wife is my best support. She comforts me when I'm down and no one else does. She knows the issues I suffer with, and helps me over come the pain. So what I'm saying is: First you must have confidence In yourself, Then you may need to seek someone who can help you through the good times and the bad.

Answer 4

Hi there. I am not really sure how you can get over that. I to deal am dealing with a different form of rejection. the best I can say is to maybe find one true friend and share your feeling and thought with them. I would like to have a friend like that.

Good Luck and hope you have a happy Thanksgiving.

Answer 5

THE BEST THING I CAN SUGGEST IS TO FIND MAYBE A COUPLE OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE A LOT IN COMMON WITH YOU.

AND TO THE PEOPLE WHO ARE DEALING WITH REJECTION IN A DIFFERENT FORM LIKE SOMEONE TURNING THEM DOWN. JUST REMEMBER.....MAYBE THAT ONE PERSON DOESN'T WANT YOU IN THAT WAY, BUT THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE WHO DOES.

Answer 6

Chalk it up to better loss...
At least you are trying to change the world, help people. Its hard to get others to listen, but if you are trying thats what happens. Rejection sucks, but it also helps us learn for the future.

Answer 7

In economics, I heard something like this a lot: "you can lead an animal to the drinking trough, but you can't make it drink".

On behalf of all animals, thank you so much for kindly offering the water. We would die of thirst if there weren't people like you, eager to give and to share. Some of us will drink right now, some of us later, some of us never. We will drink when we're ready. Please keep offering us water in case we get thirsty. Thanks! :)

Answer 8

I don't think that you are being rejected. Maybe it would help if you listened more. Could it be that you expect them to listen and care about what you want but, you are not interested in what they are about or what they want to say? Everyone wants to be heard.