My friend recently made a comment, that i had not bought much for my kids for christmas. She went on, about the toys i could of bought him, and also what she had bought her kids. I now have been left to think, maybe i am being a scrouge, after all, she has got her kids a big 9v car. My kids asked for starwars..., i have got this but i am now left to wonder whether she is right...?
The main present is:
1.) star wars lego spaceship
(http://www.toysrus.co.uk/Product.aspx/TruOrFindUsing/TruAZOfBrands/TruToysStarWars/TruToysStarWarsLego/120359?ref=Search )
2.) Star wars lego number 2 game(playstation)
3.) Cars game
4.) Construct a aeroplane craft toy
5.) A set of clothing (jumper, t-shirt and jeans).
Stocking filler: a cars toy with sweets.
2006-11-22 02:57:35 · 38 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Games & Recreation ➔ Toys
She is not the only person that has made a comment, all my other friends, seem to be agreeing with her, and telling me that i havent got them that much this year around...
2006-11-22 02:59:32 · update #1
Well i personally think that they are not very good friends to be saying stuff like this, if for whatever reason you decide to buy a little less than them for your child then that is your business. I have told each of my children this year that they can have one thing each as my house is literally full of unwanted and broken toys, such a waste. You are buying your child what he wants and you don't need to feel guilty about that. I would choose my friends very carefully in future.
2006-11-22 03:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by DJ R 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
That's a good present list. You're kids are going to be happy with that. Your friends are too materialistic. They see Christmas as simply giving presents. They forget about the family side of Christmas. Being with each other and sharing love. No kid should get everything they want anyway, that will spoil them!
Thing is, most kids only play with a new toy for a while and then they move on. After a few months they will stop playing with some of these presents. The other mums don't realise this and are spending too much on their children's presents.
2006-11-22 03:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my!
Kids are so spoiled these days! What is wrong with not buying your kids everything? Nothing!
If these other people want to buy there kids good for them! You have nothing to worry about!
Our kids get one big present (this year there game systems which they are playing with (a cube one and Nintendo one, not the brand new ones just out) . We will get them another game for Christmas too) and some little ones (like the younger one is autistic and feel a little ninety nine cent car is worth more then a 100 dollar train set). This is it!! Mind you there birthdays were not long ago so these are there birthday presents too.
I refuse to spoil our kids, or try hard not to! Material things do not mean anything. Kids need there parents attention so much more then things......
We do not give each other presents...This year the puppy I was looking for just happened to be in the paper. If she was not I would not have gotten her for Christmas....
You are fine and if these other people around you want to make themselves feel superior by putting you down smile and nod but do not fall for it!
Maybe people who are wealthy raise there kids differently? We are just working people here....
2006-11-22 03:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Poor you, what a nasty thought to be left with. I personally think Christmas is getting way out of hand and far too much emphasis is placed on giving hugely expensive gifts. You've got your kids what they've asked for and I'm sure they'll be very pleased. As Christmas has lost most of the religious conotations I think its a bit of a pointless celebration which places people under piles of stress, especially mothers. When I look back on my childhood some of the best gifts I recieved weren't the lavish expensive fads but those that were thoughtful or exactly what I wanted. Don't listen to your friend, what business is it of hers anyway. its not just presents that make christmas special.
2006-11-22 03:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by esmequeenoftheworld 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christmas isn't just about how many presents your children recieve - its about the act of giving and recieving - and the love that is shared by you and the rest of the family and the religious significance of Christ. I have to say that you give presents according you your budget and your beliefs - if you feel this is not enough and you can afford to get them more then do so - if not don't. Remind your friends that all those additional gifts they buy there children that there are other children in the world who won't get any gifts this year. As far as I am concerned if you have gotten them what they have requested then what is the problem? Your friend should worry more about her own children then concentrating on yours! I can remember one year my sister got half a room full of presents and I had about half a dozen - this was because my sister had chosen lots of inexpensive gifts and I had chosen a few expensive gifts but it didn't bother us how many we had just that 'Santa' had bought us what we had requested!!
2006-11-22 03:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by PIDGE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget them! The best pearl of wisdom me ole' man gave me was that "people who buy their children more than they can afford don't love their children enough". When he told me this at about 5 years old I didn't quite get it but now I do. It's easy to get all the expensive toys at christmas on a credit card. But you do that and you're not teaching them anything and they're unlikely to appreciate it. If they know the value of a pound now mebbe in 20 years they'll be able to afford all the toys they want where as your "friends" children are more likely to be living off the state in a 1 bedroom council house and complaining about it because they believe everything should be provided for them.
2006-11-22 04:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Scar_of_David 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) The way my parents did it was to set a budget & spend the same amount on each child (for xmas & bdays, apart from when I got a car lol!). That way one of us might get a bike & a book, one of us would get would get 3 CDs, some clothes, a book...
2) I know this year that I don't want much for Xmas, as for my bday I got a laptop. So it shouldn't matter how much you buy for your kids as long as it's something they want (within reason, as above!). No point buying something they'll never touch - u shouldn't waste ur money just because some1 is seriously cponcerned that ur not buying tons of material items for ur kids...
3) cos it's Xmas! The enjoyment of the festive period matters most!
2006-11-23 07:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by danilouprec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH this makes me so sad, when did Christmas become so commercial and full of greedy, consumer attitude it's horrible! No wonder the human race gets more and more selfish and intolerable and ever more in debt! You got your kids what they asked for that's lovely and then if you see any little things then get them but don't follow this trend, Chrsitmas is about appreciating family and making the extra effort to tell people you care if you don't see/contact them as much as you should. I'm sure you're a great mum who loves her kids and that's what counts and they'll be grateful for that more than anything when they're older.
2006-11-22 03:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Best to give what your children ask for, rather than what your friends say you should give them. That way there will not be any disappointment. And for your older children (if they already recognize the value of saving), cash is still best, because it's most flexible.
If you want to be sure, let your children go with you to the store and pick out their presents, on the condition that they can only open them on Christmas. Removes the surprise, but not eliminates disappointment.
2006-11-22 03:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by HopeURSatisfiedW/MyAnswers 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why should you subject to peer pressure? Your friends are going over the top, not you. Remember, too, that probably friends and family will give your children toys.
Do you know, I have so many friends whose kids have roomfulls of toys. It is such a waste of money.
Will your children appreciate their presents? Will they play with them?
There are no rules in this game. Other than, why should Christmas get you into debt?.
2006-11-22 03:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋