can you help me out?

Question

people tell me that im pretty but i still very insecure. And had people that said things to me that made me feel ugly. can it be possible that some people don't find me attractive because i don't show confidence in myself? How do they know i'm a insecure?

Answer 1

People can see your insecurities in you by everything that you do. If you are last to answer a question just because everyone else speaks up, or you hang your head when you walk. Basically, when you have low self esteem, it shows all over you. Do you wear your coat even when you are not cold? Do you stand up straight, or do you slouch and cross your arms? If you show that you are beautiful,(which you are), then people will begin to notice you more. If you become more outspoken, then people will hear you. It is only natural that we gravitate to the "leaders" of the "pact". Rarely does the "follower" get recognized. You are beautiful, sexy,smart,stylish, you are worth it! You are whatever you want to be!
Keep your head raised high!
mamaofthesweetest4

Answer 2

yes some people are very turned off by others who don't show any or little confidence in themselves. everyone is insecure at least a little, they don't want to be confronted by someone even more insecure. body language gives it all away. be aware of how you act in public, around strangers and around your own friends. as you become more aware of your behavior you can change it.
i don't know what you look like but I don't think you are ugly especially if others told you you were pretty. we all go through this stage in our life when we constantly question everything about ourselves. you just need to build up your self esteem. don't ever think you're worthless or not good enough. and if others tell you mean things then they are the ones who are trying to hide their own insecurities. start recovering your confidence and self esteem by writing a list of all the things you are good at including all the things you've been complimented on, wether it was talent or something you did.
Best of luck! I know you can do this. [=

Answer 3

Insecurities people tend to wear on the outside. It's very easy to tell the confident people from the ones who are very insecure. Mainly by their clothes, stance, and approach to things.

It is possible for people to not find you attractive because you don't have confidence. You need to start feeling beautiful all the time.

Do something nice for yourself, something that makes you feel good. Like maybe a manicure, or a sexy new outfit.

Gaining confidence is usually not very easy. It takes time. But you can do.

Answer 4

confidence plays a big part in this. if you are not hapy with yourself other people will see the you that you don't like. beauty is in the eye of the beholder. some may find you attractive others might not. don't listen to what people say , they can be really messed up sometimes and say hurtful things. tell yuorself your beautiful as many times at it takes and have everyone tell you to reassure you, i had insecurites like this once before but not anymore. after i realized i don't care what people think of me. i still have insecurities but hey, who doesn't? just try not to listen to any negativity and only positive and yes if you are positive all positive things will surround you. i hope you feel better and stay away from negativity. im sure everything will be fine. : )

Answer 5

They know you're insecure because whenever you go to a bathroom with some girl friends....and you look in the mirror and seem sad. That's one of the ways they can tell if you're insecure. Don't be so sad when looking in a mirror...people can always tell.

Men or guys love it when you show confidence in yourself and stand tall with nice posture. That's a turn on for guys and when they see you smile :D

Oh right...everyone has their insecurities.

Answer 6

Believe me when I say people can just look at you and tell your not self confident about yourself . You probally hold your head down , don't look in the mirrors if you try thing's on in a public dressing room when theres other pretty girl's around , you don't speak loud... there's a number of small things that give it away ... I'm the same way .... i'm learning to walk with my head held up high , look in the mirror while others are around , i wear make up to prove im pretty and it's really helping boost my confidence !

Answer 7

Confidence is definitly sexy, even if you lack looks a bit. People who are shy or seem like they are a pushover or are indecisive aren't as attractive. Know what you want and go after it, that will show you are secure in yourself. Don't care about others opinion, not everyone will agree with you all the time, and that's ok.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter what the rest of the world thinks about you, it's what you think about yourself. Think about why you feel that was about yourself and try to fix the problem, not for the world for you. i used to feel pretty insecure about myself as well, i think a lot of that has to do with what the world views as beautiful and "cool". the most attractive thing to me is a person being themselves. it took me a while to figure that out. hope it helps!!

Answer 9

When one keeps checking himself/herself in the mirror each time he/she passes one, we can tell they are vain outside but insecure inside. Walk confidently while looking straight. Smile at people when u walk pass them. Things will gradually pick up from there. After a while, it'll be au naturel

Answer 10

People know your insecure because the way you carry yourself and doubt yourself. If someone is talkin about you the see something in you that they dont even have and want it so they talk about you. So i hope you take my advice and dont let it go thruogh one ear and out the other.