2006-11-22 01:49:29 · 17 answers · asked by geo3598 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
By adopting the child you are accepting legal and financial responsibility for the child. Should the two of you ever seperate or divorce, she can petition the court for child support from you. And you can petition the court for custody or visitation.
If you do not adopt the child you may (or may not) still be required to pay child support (depends on the laws of your state). And you may (or may not) be able to get custody or visitation.
2006-11-22 01:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, YES, YES...
I have a suggestion for you; my brother went through this with his wife's daughter (not his biological daughter). There was a lot of talk about "if you love me, then you will adopt my daughter". My brother decided that he would not adopt his wife's daughter, but instead, they had the daughter's name legally changed to his last name.
It is a very simple (and inexpensive) Court procedure that does not require permission from both parents.
Some things you may not have thought about:
In order for you to adopt her children, you must get permission from the children's biological father, saying that he is willing to give up all parental rights to the children.
It is very expensive to go through an adoption. That said, if you really love the kids and want to be their father forever and ever amen, then you should go ahead and do it. This is not like buying a puppy, you can't get rid of the responsibility if you get tired of it (them), or things don't work out between you and their mother.
I feel for you, this is a very difficult decision, fraught with emotion.
Good luck to you!
2006-11-22 04:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lodiju 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by adopting you take full responsibility for them. If you are worried about a divorce in the future then why did you marry? If you love the children as they are your own and want to make them your own then go for it. In the event of a divorce would it be the children's fault? Then don't punish them for it. I wish you the best of luck and think it through before you make any decisions.
2006-11-22 02:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by lilmsmooody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that laws vary by state, but I believe the answer is yes. Once you adopt a child, they are legally yours. You don't get to give them up if you divorce their mother.
2006-11-22 01:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister's ex husband adopted her first child and he was made to pay child support, once they divorced.
2006-11-22 01:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please reconsider adopting her children. I am 41 years old. My mother remarried and her husband adopted us when I was nine. 9 years old. I remembered my father and have always been resentful about their choice for me when I was not old enough to really know what was going on. I was not allowed to see, contact or speak of my father. I did get back in touch with him when I married at 16. Dumb thing to do marry so young, but I was smothered at home. Please don't do it. And don't let them call you Dad. Just be their real true friend..it will be better for everyone.
2006-11-22 02:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes............what a noble man though, to take some one elses children as your own.
Having said that, it is a smart man to be already contemplating what happens if there is a divorce
2006-11-22 02:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, just like any other adopted child. Once they're yours legally, it applies across the board.
2006-11-22 01:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Adoption makes them as much yours as they are his or hers.
2006-11-25 13:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as quickly as you undertake the are your toddlers, so sure he might ought to pay help. i in my view had a chum that went via a similar issue. Her and her husband tried for years to get pregnant, whilst that did no longer take place they desperate to undertake. i think the adoption positioned somewhat some rigidity on their marriage and that they ended up getting divorced 6 months after the adoption became finalized. Her husband fought the certainty that the youngster became no longer his organic and organic newborn and hence shouldn't ought to pay help. The choose in certainty desperate that who ever signs and indicators the place of work work for an adoption concurs to guard that youngster for something of their lives and that he mandatory to pay newborn help.
2016-10-17 09:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋