this is just out of curiosity. How many of you would cheat on your spouse if there was absolutely no way for them to find out? I mean it was foolproof, you were guaranteed the wouldnt find out? and for the record, i wouldnt.
2006-11-22 01:19:29 · 36 answers · asked by yensenm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and just to clarify, i am a happily married woman, i was asking jus tfor curiosity, I am not thinking of cheating on my husband.
2006-11-22 01:27:16 · update #1
I would never cheat on him. If the only reason you're not going to cheat is because of the fear of being found out, your marriage is doomed. Even if your spouse never found out, you would have to carry the knowledge that you cheated forever.
2006-11-22 01:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...look at all these self righteous people here. Sorry but heres the scoop....it's human nature to know that if you are assured (or even think) you'll get away with it...you'll do it. Answering the "If you could" or "What if" questions with caveats attached are the easiest to answer. Put yourself in the real situation and it'll be different. In fact some may say "I had the opportunity to be unfaithful and I was not". Yeah...me too. But you weren't because there was no guarantee you WOULD NOT get caught. That may have been the factor that stopped you. When you are assured you will not...people will jump at it. Besides....people have egos. Whether large ones or small ones we all like to feel that we are attractive to somebody. Even if it isn't your spouse.
2006-11-22 02:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I would not cheat. When I took my vows , I meant what I said and I swore before God. That did not stop my spouse from cheating . The hurt that cheating causes can never be healed. You never trust yourself or the other person. So, even if you did not get caught I could not live with the guilt.
2006-11-22 08:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest answer....No, I couldn't cheat on my husband. Even if I was alone on a deserted island with the hottest guy in the entire world, emotionally I wouldn't be able to live with myself.
Not because I've been cheated on, (or, coincidentally, the fact that my hubby has himself a little 'friend' right now) I just love my husband too much to think about losing him by cheating.
2006-11-22 04:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! I know I would feel guilty, I cheated on a boyfriend once and I felt guilty about that for years. Plus when you cheat there is ALWAYS a way for the spouse to find out, when two ppl know a secret it is never safe.
2006-11-22 02:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of getting caught is a perfectly fine mechanism for ensuring certain assumed right behaviours persist in time: it works for kids, it works for employees, and yes, it works in many relationships. Having said that, I can tell you that many would say "yes, I might do it", but the question should be: how many of us could live with the guilt of having cheated on our spouse/partner? If the answer is still yes, obviously there´s nothing left in that relationship.
And please, don´t make it harder by saying: what if she (for men) was Angelina Jolie?
By the way, "Never say never". And for the record: "Excusatio non petita, accusatio manifesta"
2006-11-22 01:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by rafa1702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to stop you except your consience. don't you think that it would eat at you every day until you couldn't take it anymore?? I have never done it but, I would advise that you don't for two reasons. One, for your own peace of mind and second if you were caught it could ruin a comittment that took you a long time to build. It would ruin your inner happiness and for what gain? It is not worth the possible heartache that lies ahead.
Keep your marriage pure and your heart will reap the benefits.
2006-11-22 01:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by jerseybill516 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about this too. Not cheating, but just the question of "would I". The answer is absolutely NO. I love my husband so much and I could not live with myself if I ever hurt him.
2006-11-22 01:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by TessaB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it never come into my mind, not until i now.. and i am wondering if i can do it just once.. i know i will hv a guilty feelings after, but i also want to know how it feels to be with somebody else.. my husband is the only guy whom i slept with..
and if it is absolutely foolproof.. well, i'll think about it.. curiousity can harm u sometimes.
2006-11-22 01:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never cheat on my spouse no matter the circumstance. I have to much love and respect for him. I could never hurt someone that way.
2006-11-22 01:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by cakelady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋