Women...How do you view men who are irresponsible?

Question

I have my own ideas about this, but what are your views? How does responsibility play a role in choosing a mate?

Answer 1

They are immature and need to grow up.
They are selfish and do not consider the consequences of their actions. This does not make for a good mate for life, and life is too short to try to change someone who does not see the need to change.

Answer 2

Put it this way: my ex husband is totally irresponsible, disrespectful to himself and others (esp women), is a liar and cheater, doesn't seem to care about himself or others, was a momma's boy until his mother died about 4 years ago, depends on his dad to support him now that his mom is gone and isn't there to do it, etc. And he is now 52 years old, liivng in his dad's 28 foot fifth wheel trailer because he can't keep a job or spend his money wisely enough to keep a place of his own.

After living with him for 17 years, after dating him for 3 years (together for 20 total), I do NOT want to ever be with an irresponsible loser. They are very childish, won't protect you, take care of you financially or otherwise, etc.

I am now with someone that is the total opposite of my ex. He is totally responsible, respectufl, won't lie and cheat, is really good with money, has had his job for more than 20 years, etc. I am happier niow than I have ever been. I refuse to be with someone irresponsible. They are a waste of my time. I can understand being funny, having a great sense of humor, joking around a lot, etc. But the person also has to know how and when to be serious and be able to protect me, take care me and themsleves, etc. That is what I have in my fiance.

Answer 3

I think most women (myself included) like to feel protected and safe with the man they choose as their mate or husband. When a man is irresponsible, naturally his reliable is at question. I then feel I have to take on the role of "mommie" to him and that is not the relationship I wish to have with a grown man-I no longer feel safe, and secure. Some women..it doesn't seem to bother them enough to give him the boot. Me...I need a strong reliable man, not a scared irresponsible "little boy"

Answer 4

Yes being responsible is something a woman will look at when chosing a mate. We don't want someone that we are going to have to raise and play momma too. That is generally why women prefer older men, because they have went through there immature stages and done the stupid and childish things. Older men tend to be more responsible and responsive than young males.

Answer 5

It depends on what I'm looking for myself...If I'm just looking for a casual relationship (sometimes this is best if you've got issues you need to sort out or are getting over someone you've lost), then I don't give a toss if he's responsible or not. As long as he's good in bed and fun to talk to, I don't care.
However if I was tired of messing around and looking for someone to form a real relationship with, I'd need to feel sure he was the right one (i.e. no messing around with other people, not letting me down, spending a decent amount of time with me so we can get to know each other really well etc). I think the issue here is when soemone makes all the right noises and tells you what he thinks you want to hear, but behaves as if it were a caual relationship. Its not so much to do with what he does, but the conflict between what he says and what he does, i.e. 'you're the only one for me', 'I love you', then you find out he's been sleeping with other people for the past 6 months. It's the lie that stings, and the humiliation you feel for allowing yourself to be taken in by it.

Answer 6

To a frt extent....just today..only i had an incident....
it does cost you a lot to go around with a iiiirrrrreessppoonnssiibbllee MAN!!!Life is something that stands on moments....within a sec many things can happen....and if u are with a iresponsible man you will start loosing on those things and u have to goo repenting continously..you life would become simply a living hell....
and u knw u cannot simply go on with somebody of that sort..yes but u can choose somebody that sort but u just got to change his habbits for the better...if u can try doing it...u still would be in better place..really..take it from me...

Answer 7

If i choose and Irresponsible man then i am the same as well.

If he is responsible then he will be responsible enough to take care of me, not hurt me, handle my feelings, and it will be a mature relationship.
But an Irresponsible then the relationship is DEAD. and so he is

Answer 8

An irresponsible guy is simply a child walking around in a man's body.

Answer 9

Depends on the level of irresponsibility, really - it can be rather charming in small amounts, but personally I would not be able to remain in a serious relationship with a pathologically irresponsible man.

Answer 10

An irresponsible man is just another child to take care of. Women will have enough of that when they become mothers. They don't need a big kid, they need a partner who will help them.