My daughter is 12, my son is 7... and I am due in January...Clearly, my children have been spaced quite a distance apart in years. I've sold or given away almost ALL of my baby items. With our finances in a shamble, I often wonder how we'll get by unless someone has a baby shower for the baby. None of my friends or relatives have offered and I really don't like the idea of hosting one myself. I had showers with both of my other children... and received a lot of very nice things. It would be SOOO helpful to have another shower. Would it be out of line to maybe host a "Meet the Baby Party"? And if so, at what age is appropriate to hold the event?
I'd love your feedback on this.
2006-11-22 00:58:11 · 14 answers · asked by indianarose5 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Sorry. I wish I could say you should have a baby shower but I believe this is for first time parents only. I know having big age gaps makes it harder and that it would be helpful to have another shower, but it's poor form and puts everyone in an uncomfortable situation. People that want to buy the baby gifts will do so with or without a shower.
What I would do is have a "meet our new brother/sister" party. Throw it in honor of your daughter and son and send the invites as if they were throwing the party. It would be a great way to get them involved and have other people meet the baby (around 6 weeks-8 weeks old). People might bring presents but they might not and you shouldn't count on the fact that they will.
2006-11-22 02:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by smartygirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be fine to have either a baby shower or meet the baby party. I have heard rule of thumb is if your children are 5 years apart, it's perfectly fine anyways. Honestly, I have plenty of family and friends who have baby showers for each baby, and some are only a year or two apart. We look at it as it's not fair to the other babies to not have one and get special presents from auntie, uncle and grandma, etc. My daughter is 14 months old and we are having a baby shower for our second due in May. My mother is throwing it. If you need to host it yourself, so be it! Also, ask around for used baby items if your finances are not in good shape. Anyone in your family have an old crib, high chair, bouncy seat, etc. Maybe to get a feel on YOUR family and friends, ask a close family member or friend and get their opinions. Someone who won't go talk behind your back and everything.
The meet the baby parties I have been to are usually when the baby is just a couple weeks old.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-22 02:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think it is odd that woulkd have had a shower for BOTH your other kids... where I'm from they only do it for the first baby. I do think the "Meet the baby" party is a good idea because everyone wants to come see the baby, but worry about just dropping in, if mom's in the mood and things like that. As far as when to have the party, don't wait too long after the birth maybe a couple months 'cause people like to see the little ones!!! Good luck!
2006-11-22 01:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Samann 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're going to have a "Meet the Baby Party", you might as well throw your own baby shower. At least that way, you're guaranteed to get gifts since that seems to be your main concern.
People often turn their noses up at me when I say this but to be honest, if you're short on cash and need decent baby items, I've always found thrift stores and yard sales to be particularly helpful in this area. Babies grow out of things so quickly that a good portion of the things donated to thrift stores and being sold at yard sales is really nice.
2006-11-22 01:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How far along are you? Maybe friends or family are going to give you a suprise baby shower. I would try hinting around to family or friends, about how much stuff your going to need for the new baby, since you got rid of all your baby stuff.. Maybe they'll catch the hint and throw you that baby shower. If not i think it would perfectly fine to give a "Meet the baby party". i would do it when the baby is about 2 weeks old, that way you can get the stuff a newborn would need.
2006-11-22 01:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by debbie r 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even though spaced apart, it is your 3rd child, so expecting someone to throw you a baby shower might be a bit much. And I wouldn't nose around about it either - it just makes you look greedy. Mention to a couple of family members that you wish you'd kept your baby items because it feels like you have to start from scratch again and leave it at that. Throwing your own meet the baby party is a little tacky and again just makes you look like your fishing for gifts. Your family and firends will naturally come and see baby anyways. Garage sales and second-hand stores are a great way to replenish baby items for cheap.
2006-11-22 01:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is no reason not to have a meet the baby party but you would do that after the baby is born so you will still need to get most of the baby stuff yourself. I have just givin birth to my third and had nothing wasn't planning on haveing anymore and i went to thrift store and yard sales and bought everything for this baby. Maybe your family is throwing you a baby shower but it is a surprise.
2006-11-22 01:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by christina c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have another shower! They are fun and people dont mind coming and bringing presents to help out! My sister-in-law is 7 months pregnant and she just had her baby shower last week. She is also having a MEET THE BABY party too when the baby is a few weeks old. Do both, people would love it as much as you!
2006-11-22 01:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-22 14:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it has been so long since your last child it is proper to have another baby shower...especially since you are not supposed to use a car seat more than 6 years-old (A police officer at baby safety fair told me this). Talk to your closest relative and tell them that you don't have any baby items anymore and see if they will host a party for you.
2006-11-22 01:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋