My ex split with me for ne reason and now after 3 months she is talking nice to me but i found out that she's in debt for loans she had to take out afterwards, should i feel guilty for not helping her out now or should i just move on with my life and leave her to hers.
2006-11-22 00:56:27 · 43 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
help her out?
are you crazy.
2006-11-22 00:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't you dare feel guilty, she split with you remember, left you not knowing why and got herself in debt.
Let her sort her own problems out, move on with your life and kick her to the curb, I would say she knows you are a nice person and thinks you are a sure bet to ask for help, don't be a sucker.
She left, thought the grass was greener on the other side, and has now probably realized what she has lost, tell her to get knotted and find yourself someone who will respect you for you, love you for you, and be a decent enough person to be straight with you. Good Luck.
2006-11-22 01:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Migz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure help her out. Then when you're through helping her she can dump you again and for no reason. I presume that you have moved on with your life. Good for you. Now tell that conniving gold digger Jezebel to do the same. You know darn well what she is after. Don't give anything to her. Keep moving on with your life and don't feel guilty about anything!
2006-11-22 01:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, guilt is not a good basis for a relationship. You could become an enabler to the problems she has. Some times it is best to let people suffer the consequences of their actions. Although hard to do but necessary. If you are going to get back in a relation ship with her just to save her from herself it will be a poor relationship.
2006-11-22 01:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Roberto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow... I know how this feels. I was with a guy who I didn't realize was so financially dependent on me until we broke up. I felt bad for him because he had nothing. I felt guilty and wanted to help him. I did help him only once because he had a $200 bill to pay and he wasn't getting paid for another weak. I felt like a complete sucker thinking that he was going to rip me off. He didn't rip me off... he actually paid me. It probably helped that I was calling ever other to remind him until he paid me back. But, after that, I refused. It wasn't easy because I still cared about him while simultaneously hated him for hurting me. I told him it was time for him to find a job that paid more or take on a second job. I think you should cut your ex off... like I did mine. The best way to do it is to think of the mean things you ex did and remind yourself of those things when you start feeling soft. Make a list of those things. When she starts asking for favors, pull out your list and say "oh, yeah... that's why I'm not with her". Put "breaking my heart for no good reason" at the top of that list.
2006-11-22 01:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - she is. You can be pleasant to her if you like but for goodness sake dont give her a penny. It's not your problem. Do YOU want to end up in debt and if the shoe were on the other foot, would she do it for you?
Move on with your life - you've had a lucky escape by the sounds of things !!!
2006-11-22 01:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you feel guilty for loans SHE incurred? Are you bone stupid Mac? Why pray tell would you feel guilty about something like that?
I'd be ecstatic she didn't do it on my credit card while we were together and she split.
If you get together and agree to pick up these loans than you've answered MY question.
2006-11-22 01:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see if she is just talking to you for money. If she is HEC NO dont help her out. That would be just using you. But if she just wants to be friends WHICH I DOUBT seeing as sh has to pay off some loans and debts, be nice. otherwise MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!
2006-11-22 00:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by jigglet92 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to use you the only reason she does want to be bothered with you because she is in debt leave her alone let her stay in Debt let her feel that she let a good Man. Because one day she will regret everything.
2006-11-22 01:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tamia J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. You can be friends by advicing her if she wants advice. BUT, please don't make the mistake of lending her money in any form. She will find a way out herself. If she dumps you again even as a friend knowing you aren't going to help her financially, you know she was trying to use you. Don't wait to find out...just move on...
2006-11-22 01:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by happykat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on! She sounds like a user and a loser. You didn't contract the debt so why should you pay? Lose the guilt and enjoy your life!
2006-11-22 00:58:56 · answer #11 · answered by troll_house_kookies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋