if ur ex still loves u willhe evntually find his wayback?

Question

My ex says he still still loves me? then y say the time wrong?
my ex and i broke up a while ago. although he loves me. he says his heart is with me and always will be but his head at the mo isnt .
ed if u love some one let them go if they come back there always ures. i have been a cow to him since we broke up because i didnt know how to deal with it. threatening him with various things. which i regret totally.
he says he needs to find out who he is , he sed his heart is with me but his head isnt and circumstances mean we cant be together at mo becaus at the momnet he cant forget the bad stuff that happened at the end? some explanations please. is he needing this time to forget the bad stuff , if so do u think he ever will? or can
the whole purpose of not finding somone knew is thta i love him and know it can be good
i asked if he wnats me to move on , and he sed no he doenst but he cant be with me at this time. the thing is he says my heart is always with him but his head not with me

dont say move on cause we still love each other

Answer 1

Knowing how old You two are would probably help. Like if He is 18 to 24 it might be more understandable to want to make sure He is prepared to be in a lasting relationship. One thing that has helped Me, and how I wish I had known it earlier in life, are the words from the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The writer Grey, states that Women are like a wave, their life's go up with happiness and excitement, and then they crash down......and then back up......and back down. He states that Men when confronted with an issue, or problem, like to retreat, to what He calls a Man cave. Men want to separate Themselves from a confrontation and think about it, and then when they have it all thought out, they will return, to address the issue, fully prepared with Their response.

Women want to solve it now, and We see Their detachment as non caring to the present situation, and Our needs. And that can lead us to anger, and the possibility of saying things We regret later.

Once I heard that, and My Husband and I had a falling out, I was happy to let Him go run an errand, instead of trying to talk it over. Within two minutes He was calling Me saying that He was going to pick up some take out, and would I like anything? Had I only knows this earlier in Life, I could have saved myself a lot of grief.

If You feel in Your heart this relationship is a good one, then find something to occupy Your time, as not to drive Yourself crazy, and give it some time.......but not too long.

Best Wishes

Answer 2

Do let him go on his own way for awhile, maybe he is confused. If you both still love each other be happy that it didn't end on a sour note.
There's a possibility that he may love you as a friend but not have the love that it takes for a solid relationship with you. People can be "in love" with each other, and even feel they are soul mates, but it doesn't mean a relationship will work out.
Trust me hun, I'm at the tail end of a very similar situation. It hurts so badly, but remember your blessing in still having his love and friendship. And of all the things you should pray for and need, the most important thing is ACCEPTANCE.
Just give it time, and keep your mind and heart busy with other things in your life. Don't put all your energy and time into lamenting about the breakup. All things work out (or don't work out) for a good reason and maybe you won't even understand that reason until you're old and gray.
Good luck to you both!

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I were in the exact same situation. We had been together for about 2 years and then all of a sudden he broke up with me one day and said he needed time. During the time we weren't together he still called me all the time and wanted to go on dates and stuff like that. I didn't push or anything like that I just let time decide what was going to happen. My parents didn't like him and during the time we were apart I had to sneak around to see him and when I did we had long conversations about important things. We talked about everything and I made him feel like he was the most important person for me and a year ago today we got back together. He told me he was dumb because he wanted to go out and look for happiness but this whole time it had been sitting right in front of him.
Just give him some space and time he'll realize that he needs you and will come back to you. Believe me if his heart is still with you, you have the best part of him with you.
Good Luck and I hope all goes well with you and your man.

Answer 4

I'm not going to say move on because there is no way to move on from someone you really love. Sometimes people need time away from the people they to really realize how much they love them and miss them. He needs time heal and time away so he know who he really is. The hard part is letting him have that time because you're scared that in that time he is going to find someone else or move on without you and leave you behind waiting on him. That's the hard part because it could happen but what is meant to be will be, no one can change that. If you two are not meant to be together then you won't. If that happens it will take time to heal and that love will always be there with you and you can take that love with you and always have it with you and learn from it. If it is meant to be he will take time and his heart will finally agree with head and when it does you'll be there and the past will be hard to get over but with time you can. Just don't rush things give it time and while he's figuring out who he is then you can take time to figure out who you are.

Answer 5

If you're willing to try it again, go ahead. The thing is, you broke up already and there was a reason most likely. I find myself sometimes missing my ex but when I do, I think about the majority of time, of how he was such a jerk and thought he was perfect and immature. Think about your relationship as a whole, not just those special times that honestly make you miss her. Good luck.

Answer 6

Love is not being able to live without eachother, not saying he loves you but not wanting you in his life. What he is doing is not love. It's him wanting his cake and eating it too. You still love him with the hope he'll come crawling back with his tail between his legs, but ask yourself "Can you be really happy knowing that at any time his head may in future decide it can't be with you again?" It really is time to move on. Give him a time limit (say one week) to get his head screwed on straight. If at the end of one week he still can't make up his mind, then make it up for him. Don't waste your time / energy on a loser.

Answer 7

Sounds like some space will do you both good. Just take some time and see if in a couple of weeks things aren't any better. If not, don't wait around...move on. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I will say it....Move on!!! Are you going to let someone string you along? Who is playing who? He is using your emotions to keep you around so he can shop for the perfect girl. If he finds her he will drop ya like a hot rock. Don't allow yourself to be used and abused. Tell him that you are going to explore your options as well since he can't commit to you at this time.

Answer 9

If feels that you are the one for him than yes he will try to do anything in his power to be with you so just hold on and wait because true love never escapes.

Answer 10

Zzzzzzzzz..*huh*.um.....sorry. Dozed off there.