I give my husband head all the time, sometimes I can't get him to ***. He'll go into the bathroom and shut the door and get off w/ a porn mag. I talked 2 him about it last nite, is there something wrong with me or what? He says that he thinks I'll feel pressured to finish the job so he does it himself. HELP!
2006-11-22 00:41:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
btw...I am very satisfied...ya buddy!
2006-11-22 00:54:27 · update #1
Sue Beth,
This seems like such a shame. You're so willing, and he's just a bit uptight. If you tell him how very willing and completely unpressured and how much it is that you desire for him to let loose and *** you might get him to go beyond this little block that he has.
And in the meanwhile, maybe you could invite him to finish off in the room with you as motivation instead of the porn mag. Or maybe if he needs to you could offer to be his page turner... the idea is to communicate to him that you want to be a complete participant in his s e x u a l fulfillment... because that is what a good loving partner is...
BTW, how is your satisfaction? Is he comfortable with keeping you happy?
2006-11-22 00:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Only reason I am concerned is that he goes in the bathroom and shuts the door to do it. Why not have him do it in front of you and see if he can get off that way. Or you do yourself in front of him and then maybe he'll do the same. Don't know - sounds normal except for going into another room and shutting the door.
2006-11-22 01:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by T C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try doing it in the 69 position, it will give him something to concentrate on. Some men , like me , take forever to *** from oral. However, going to the bathroom to finish is just plain wrong and disrespectful. tell him how you feel. again. wish you were here, rarely get head. good luck.
2006-11-22 00:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure that most people won't be able to handle this but at least I tell the truth. From my own experience, while I love the act, I don't like the finishing. For me it is kind of degrading to my partner unless they really love it. Does he feel that him finishing is important to you and that you are really into it? If not, maybe if you told him he would be more into it. Good luck!
2006-11-22 00:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are ALOT of men who cant get off from getting head. And my man is one of them. I suggest you let him go and finish the job if thats what he needs to do. Not a big deal..it has nothing to do with and i know it has nothing to do with me because i know what im doing,,Some men are just like this. All i know is if i was giving him oral then he would be doing me next,,,and to get off we would be having sex to finish the job. Whats up with that,,,that you all dont finish the job having intercourse after you have done what you could for him as far as oral goes? Tell him there are other ways to get off besides looking at a magazine,,,,geez. He doesnt need to do that ALL the time.
2006-11-22 00:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have the same problem. my wife gives me head and i just can't come. is he very sensitive? i know i'm a very sensitive, caring guy and to me i feel the act of shooting the wad into her mouth is just kinda disgusting. i don't run off to the bathroom like him, but i just let my hot warm juices go elsewhere. it's just a personal preference of mine and i'm sure countless other guys that we don't want to let it go, just enjoy head for what it is. hey, you got me all horny! i want head!!! :-)
2006-11-22 01:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinkin HE feels uptight about finishing the job. Sounds like he has issues, not you. there is no such thing as bad head, only varying degrees of greatness!
2006-11-22 00:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technique maybe? Have you tried oral a different way? Without getting too graphic I suggest you tongue lower on his sack and work him up. Tell him to relax....or perhaps get some lube and give him a handjob and see if you can get him to spew. Maybe he has a medical problem that he is embarrassed to talk about.
2006-11-22 00:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by troll_house_kookies 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was probably fantasizing other women like porn models, that 's why he couldn't come when you give him head. If I were you I wouldn't let him do that. He isn't doing or enjoying it with you obviously! Thinking that you'll feel pressured is just a lame excuse.
2006-11-22 00:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Arianne 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He's addicted to that crap and it's a crutch for him. He needs to respect you and not look at that crap anymore. It has been proven that in some men, an addiction to porn can eventually cause impotence. True.
2006-11-22 01:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by HJ8 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋