what should i do?

Question

im 16 and i want to have a baby. im scared to tell my parents. i have been wanting a baby for a year now. i can take care of it and feed it and have a responsibility for a baby. what should i do??

Answer 1

You're 16. You have your entire life ahead of you; live your life as a teenager now, and think about having a baby later. It's not as easy as it sounds. The costs are huge and you won't be able to do things with your friends; your entire life will revolve around the baby. If you want to go to the mall with your friends, you'd have to bring the baby and work around his/her scheduale. The baby needs to be fed at certain times, he/she needs to have a nap at specific times. Your baby would have a routine, and your life revolves around it. You wouldn't be able to go to school for a while, which, as great as it sounds, is not. You need an education to get a job. You need money to support the baby. You get money from your job, and it goes right back to a good education. You might think you're ready, but you most likely are not. Think of all the things you love to do throughout your day. Now think of how hard it would be to do those things with a living, breathing human child. Babies are cute and all, and they make people happy. But you need to be 100% ready for it. Plus, you're most likely not married. If your boyfriend was the father, how do you think HE'D feel being a father at his age? You can't say he'd stay with you; it's a big commitment. So before you go and try to get pregnant, T H I N K about your life and what you could make of it. You have your whole life ahead of you. Live your youth as much as you can, and wait until you're out of college and married to have a baby. I hope you see where I'm coming from, because in the end, it's totally your choice.

Answer 2

At 16, you don't need a baby. Its a lot of work to take care of a child. Although it may sound rewarding, it might ruin your life. You will have a baby, however precious he/she maybe, but you will lose friends/teenaged years/school/etc. Your parents would have to financially support you, and I don't think they'd be happy about that.

Also, it sounds like you'd go out and get pregnant with any man, at this point. NOT A GOOD IDEA! You want to stop, and make sure you have somebody you love before having a baby. If you don't, then he'll just take off! Your child NEEDS a father, no matter what you think.

Just wait, until you are in your 20s, done with college, have a steady job and have met the right man. Right now, go out and buy a puppy or a kitten. Volunteer a local animal shelter or vets office. There are sick animals there that you can help nurse back to health, if that makes you happy!

Answer 3

I don't want to sound so bad but I'm a mother of a teenager. Before you jump into that decision,please think a million times. Not for you alone but for the child you 'll bear. Taking good care of your child mean having the means to provide her with the basic needs ( food, shelter, education,etc.), it's a serious responsibility, securing not only the needs now but the future as well. It's easy to make it,but are you really ready for the responsibility that goes with being a parent? Secure your future first. Only until then can you secure a bright future for the child you plan on having.I'm a mother at 19 and I tell you, it's a hard road, not only for me but for my daughter. Had I waited a little longer, things would have been better.

Answer 4

I'm 16 and pregnant, and although I'm excited to have the baby and so is his father, i definatly would rather be older. You don't need to rush into something like this, wait until after you graduate college or at least high school. Go buy a puppy! They are just as cute and that will help you get ready to have a baby because there is no way you are now.

Answer 5

Babe i really think u should chill!!! What about your education? Taking care of a baby is not that easy and u cud find out from victims of teenage pregnancy. You have all the time in d world 2 make babies. U should be matured in both body and mind to make that kind of decision.

Answer 6

you should wait until you are mature enough to financially support it!!!!! you have no idea at your age how much of a responsibility a child is, and how much time they will take away from you while you are still growing up yourself!!! If it is something that you really want then you should be willing to wait until it is the best time for the baby.....you have a whole lifetime in front of you, why rush through it?????

Answer 7

Really? How are you going to pay for it? Think mom and dad are gonna magically come up with more money? Think it isn't expensive? Well, hon, you're wrong. How much do you think the hospital stay alone would cost?

All little girls want a baby. Most, however, are smart enough to wait until they are financially capable of supporting a child.

Answer 8

Wait until you are a little over 17, then when the baby pops out, you will be past graduation and you can immediately start on college....take my advice, so you wont hurt your parents, and when you do have the baby, tell them you did it on purpose.

Answer 9

you should definately wait, you wont get to experience some of the best years of your life without being tied down, it will be hard to get an education and make enough money to provide for your child, and a guy at 16 is mature enough to know what he wants you might end up being a single mom. you should wait until you have your own home and are stable enough, youre just now old enough to drive

Answer 10

i thhihnk that even though u want a baby you should wait to have it with sombody you really love becuase the baby will want a good dad. Dont rush things. You will have one eventually. Just be patient