What would you do?

Question

If you were one of four children and your mother wants to make a will and has told you that she wants to leave eveything to you (not the others for what ever reason) what would you do?

Answer 1

Hey there!!

This is a tuff one. On one hand, you have been offered everything. On the other hand, what about your excluded siblings? Well... I gues the first thing I would do is consult my mother on why she would want it this way. Then i would evaluate this, and base my actions on that. The only thing I worry about for you, is the disruption it will (more than likely), cause for the rest. People are already weak about money, and to have this in the middle of your family, could leave you totally isolated from them. I guess you will be making some big decsions soon, but just remember that there must be a good reason about you why your mother left all to you. Maybe she see you as the responsible one, as the one who would know how to disperse this inheritance and make use of it... Well, I hope this is the reason. Or, if it is too much for you to cope with, you could also give proceeds away to charity or something. Or start a family business and get everyone involved, bring you alll together. At least then no body could feel left out. I wish you all the best with this. Just do what is best for you, your siblings and by way of honouring your mother.

Good luck darling!!

Love

Answer 2

Take it and do a runner. Nah Im only joking I would share it out as its not fair but if the other children have done something to upset your mother I would ask them to talk to each other because if they find out when your mother has passed away that you have got everything it will stir some trouble and you dont want that! Lucky You by the Way xx

Answer 3

I would just ask her if she is really true this is what she wants to do and I would just remind her, even though she may not have forgotten, that she has 3 other kids who love her also very much. Doing what she wants to do may make them think that she did not really love them as much as you! Things like this can cause trouble in family who never had trouble before. I also was one of four kids in a family and the youngest but when our Father, who was the last to go, did die. He left the same amount of everything to each of us and we loved him for this as much as if he were still alive and with us!

Answer 4

tell her you would rather share it equally between you all if she says no then let her have her way( then have a will done your self in case anything should happen to you )and share between your brothers and sisters . PS is there a reason she wants to do this ?maby the others don't give her the time of day in this case thaydon't deserve anything she has , but if they help her she should help them

Answer 5

This is obviously her wish but perhaps you could share a bit when the time comes. Makes mom happy for now and the other 3 won't be so upset.

Answer 6

it depends on the kind of relationship u have with your siblings. Do u value them, do u care about them, would you want them to be a significant part of your life now, and when your mother has passed away. If yes, I wouldn't necessary tell them what your mother is planning to do because its her will, her wealth and she has every right to do what she wants with it, but once its in your hands, work it out such that they have a share of it as well

Answer 7

well to be honest i would talk to my mom and say she should really share between the four of us then leave it to her to make the final decision herself but i suppose it also depends on what the others have been like in the past too

Answer 8

If I honestly didn't have a clue as to why she was cutting the others out, I'd ask.

If I thought she was becoming senile and not what she would have done before becoming senile, then I'd encourage her to do otherwise.

If she didn't, and I still thought she should give the others something, I'd wait until she died, then share my part with them.

Answer 9

I would split the estate equally. The hassle that squabbling siblings after a funeral cause, just isn't worth it. I've seen it happen and it's disrespectful to the deceased at a time when you should be grieving, not being greedy!

Answer 10

I would share it with my brothers and sisters after mom has passed. No matter what has gone on during your lives, you are all still her children and I honestly think everything should be divided.