I have been married for 11 years and have 3 kids. Now my wife wants to be separated. I dont get it. Why is it so easy to give up?
2006-11-21 23:48:02 · 9 answers · asked by Quinton S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People just don't give up like that sweetie alot of times we fail to see the signs when things are going wrong or we try to pretend that nothing is wrong. All you can do is pick up the pieces and move on and learn from this .
2006-11-21 23:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in life nothing seems to be easy. What I have noticed is that a lot of people are so extremely different. Our society today puts so much pressure on everyone. Lots of people can deal with life's every day pressures and stresses. Some people for whatever reason cannot deal with life issues as well as others, and they feel like the only way out is the easy way out. That way they have no responsibility, noone to care about but themselves. This is so easy for them. As life goes on then they realise they made a big time mistake, then by that time life has passed them by and it is too late. If you will look at the divorce rate today it is extremely high. Something noone shoud be proud of but unfortunately the statistics do not lie. Noone can make your wife want to stay with you and your kids except for her. If she decides to go her own seperate way, really there is not a whole lot you can do about it but do what you have to do. You either end the relationship or do nothing and do the best you can and raise the kids. Another thing to consider is if you can suggest to your wife that you both go to marriage counseling. You both need to talk more and understand just why in the world she feels like this. Then there is a chance with a lot of hard work and prayer, (ask God to help you and your wife through this) he will help you and he will help restore your marriage. God will be there when noone else will be there, he is.
2006-11-22 08:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, it is never easy to give up. I would say that this decision has been lingering on her mind for a very long time. But what ever the reason was for making her decide on the separation between the two of you must have been a doosey.If you don't want this separation to happen then why don't you sit and talk with her and find out exactly what the problem really is?
Good Luck to you both
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I hope that the two of you will not allow this matter to ruin your childrens Thanksgiving & Christmas.
Good Luck again.
2006-11-22 10:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may have found someone else, and really don't want to work on the marriage any more. it is easy to give up if u don't love or value that person anymore, it is easy to walk away if one has no faith or hope in something. she feels her expectations weren't met and never will be, because she isn't able to see the real you. some people just walk away from what's not working out, because they don't see a future, rather than fix the problem they just go out and find someone else.
2006-11-22 08:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 possible reasons, firstly, it could be she feels that shes been working hard over the past 11 years to make your relationship work and to her it’s not an easy decision but a necessary one, and her last resort.
Secondly it could be that you never entered the relationship with the same vision for it, or same expected commitment. Therefore she may not value it as you do. – hence making it easier for her to step out of it
2006-11-22 08:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope. Talk to her and let her know, that you want to save your marriage. Hope you are willing to go to counseling with her. I agree with you in today's society it is too easy to walk away.
I have no idea why. Wishing you all the Best and a good outcome
for you and your Family.
2006-11-22 07:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by mimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy unless YOU are a total *******. Talk to her and try to be empathetic. See it from her point of view. then you may be able to address why she is leaving and improve things or agree with her.
2006-11-22 12:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a lot of modern day women, selfish bitches.
2006-11-22 07:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
selfish , greed , unhonest , unfaithful
all this words are nothing of what she did
2006-11-22 07:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by elmeesk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋