My husband says that all men enjoy looking at naked bokies and sex and that if they say they don't they are lying. I find this hard to believe. I also find it annoying and disrespectful but he says it doesn't have anything to do with relationships or who you are with it is normal and healthy. Men do you all think this way? Women do you mind this behavior?
2006-11-21 23:41:31 · 18 answers · asked by Trisha 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband would agree with your husband, I agree with you, especially when he gets it whenever he wants it, I never say no to him, shouldn't that be enough...
Have a GREAT day!!!!!!!
2006-11-21 23:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is speaking on behalf of, I believe, at least 90% of men - probably more like 100%. It does not mean that there is anything wrong with your relationship or you. If however he is not paying any attention to you then it is a problem.
He could have five wives in the house each as hot as anything and do anything he wants. He would still like porn.
Women are fighting a losing battle on this. Either tolerate it, or, better yet, try to become interested. I would guess about 50% of women end up liking it as much as their husbands.
2006-11-22 01:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think women need to relax more - I've been in many great relationships and still look at and watch porn. Tell you what, try this. Go get a movie and next time when you're sitting around the house together put it in and watch it with him. Talk to him about it - does he like what he's seeing - what does he like about it - try some of it. Sex should be fun and experimenting. Trust me - he'll love it and you might just find that you enjoy it too.
2006-11-22 01:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures and respond to what we see. However, if I had porn in my house and my significant other were offended by it, I would stop out of coutesy. I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings and make her think I didn't find her attractive any more.
If your husband is watching porn and you'd like him to stop, but he says it's normal and he won't...you can go the traditional route and be mad and create space. But try this first. Get out the sexy clothes and give him a week he won't soon forget. Maybe not every night, but way more than he's used to. Make sure every night you are "together" it's something different, fun and exciting. Make sure your pleasure is taken care of too. After that week, see how much he needs porn...
2006-11-21 23:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watched a documentary where men and women were wired up so that brain waves could be read....showed a variety of image on a big screen...when naked female were shown, the men's brainwaves peaked and the womens stayed pretty much normal, when naked men were shown, pretty much both sexes stayed normal...but when little babies were shown the womens brain waves peaked...
wish I could remember the show, but the conclusion was that our brains are just wired different.
2006-11-21 23:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a women, but I will tell you this. Not all men care to look at naked girls and to druel over them and it is not just to be looking at them. A man has to have a reason to look at them. I am not one of those that goes out of his way to look, but I will if it's there. I don't go looking for it. I would much rather it be real, right in front of me, but I think that probably goes for most men.
2006-11-21 23:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very visual, it's the way they're wired.
However if he is doing something that hurts you, he is being disrespectful, and that is a big problem.
2006-11-21 23:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Myrmaad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much normal. As long as it doesn't become an obsession or an alternative to a healthy sexual relationship with your partner!
2006-11-21 23:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visually stimulated whereas women are more emotionally stimulated. It's normal. All men do it.
2006-11-21 23:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase men are more viusal than women. It's the way they are wired.
2006-11-23 01:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by evilbarrister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋