He called again, I came back. Was with him for almost 8 weeks, then the other came back, he threw me away like a piece of trash. Told me he NEVER want to speak to me again. Because this time I would not give him money. This is about the 6 time I took him back, strange thing is I continue to question him this time. Maybe I knew. I just want the pain to stop and specially the revenge!! I would just love to get even with him and her. Will I ever stop love that man?? and how can you be happy if all you think about is him??
2006-11-21 23:37:24 · 14 answers · asked by Pattie T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FIRST you need to STOP going back to him because he is only using you and you are allowing him to do so. You dont have enough self esteem within yourself to not go back. If you ever want to get ober the guy STOP GETTING BACK WITH HIM! There is no reason you should even be in contact with him, he is a loser and if you continue to see him ...you will be one as well.
2006-11-21 23:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really did love him to begin with then you will take a good time before you ever stop loving him.
Don't worry you will be okay. The first thing you have to do is let go and let God. No i am not preaching to you. When i say God i mean who ever you pray to. If you do not believe in God just let go of the situation. I think that you are beating up your self for going back with him so many times but you need not worry.
This may sound harsh but if you think that you are not going to be happy because all you think about is him then you really are not going to be happy.
Think about you. Put him in the back of your mind.
Love you. Do something to make you happy. If you feel that you are not going to get over him then you are not. Let go and think about yourself. This is the only time it is okay to be selfish. I know. I have been there and i am loving myself more than anything and trust me it will show in your aura and before you know it you will have someone else and then it will be okay to want him to see you with your new man to get him jealous.
2006-11-22 00:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way, your still giving him the attention he wants by being angry and wanting revenge. Nothing you do or say will ever hurt him as much as he hurt you because he simply doesnt care about you.
You are a much better person than him and her they deserve each other.
Hold up your head and walk tall they are not worth the effort of fighting with.
2006-11-21 23:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by multiflowercolour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your feelings..you can't judge your feelings...you can't tell your heart to stop loving someone...until someone else gets a chance to heal your broken heart..meaning when you find your soul mate thats when you will be happy...if you really think about it and just let it go...you will..think about other goals you've made...make it a goal...maybe if your lonely and you only have him to talk to then its going to be harder...try and go out...its scary to start over but you will see in the long run...it will work out for you...take care and be safe...
2006-11-21 23:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Rios 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been crapped on more than a toilet. Just try to stay busy....read, go to a movie, be with friends, family, whatever....time does heal! Now, all of those jerks that used me and that made me cry and want to kill myself, I just want to laugh at them!! They are pitiful, sad, shameful excuses for men and now I have the last laugh because I am happily married and they are probably still screwing around with women's lives. Just move on.
2006-11-21 23:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Agent99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find someone else better than him that doesn't treat you like trash then the hurt will stop. The healing will begin if you forget him. Find someone who respects you for who you are and who you are not. Find someone who will will not use you.
Hope this helps~
2006-11-21 23:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by curious~me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip girl you need to go out and find yourself some self esteem.
Do you have doormat tattooed to you forehead or something. He will keep on treating you like crap as long as you believe you are one.
2006-11-21 23:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The healing begins when you begin to get out there and re-market yourself..... Always keep adding new guys' names and numbers to your rolodex until you find the one you want to pursue a little deeper into another relationship........ until then have fun looking and treat yourself well!!!!
2006-11-21 23:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must move on, all you are doing is hurting yourself!!!! Get some counselling, if nothing else for yourself. The guy is not good for you. Good Luck to you, life is hard sometimes.
2006-11-21 23:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope so I am going through the same thing, I love her so much and keep going back to her, only for more pain and lies. we must get over it. we will ...
2006-11-21 23:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋