How can I tell if my family is really sincere in their support about my sexuality? They call my boyfriend my "friend" and told me that we are welcome to the house to visit but not to stay nights. I really care about my family alot and their support is really important to me. We are planning on moving in this summer and I want as much support from them as I can get (emotionally).
2006-11-21 22:26:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Certain people find it necessary to use their conservative views to change the actual meaning of this question. To let you know my parents are not conservative and anyone who calls me or my lover any insulting names will be insulting. I appreciate your answers. Please keep it clean.
2006-11-21 23:16:56 · update #1
Oh crap thats suppose to be reported not ...
will be insulting ...
2006-11-21 23:18:11 · update #2
Your family seem like they are trying, but seriously you should tell them this- that there support means a whole lot to you and you love and respect them and you just want the same and deserve the same like any human being does.
If it concerns you why dont you sit with them alone and bring the subject up and you can all have your say.
I really hope it works out for you and everyone else concerned.
2006-11-21 22:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by *JC* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, at least they are welcoming him into your house. Give it some time and your family will see that your love for each other is as important as the rest of your family. It sounds like you are getting as much emotional support as you are going to get for now. As far as the "friend" thing, that is probley the only comfortable label they know how to give him right now. All that matters is that you and him understand that your love is important, your family will come along.
2006-11-22 07:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as we hope the people we love will totally and unabashedly accept us unconditionally, it seldom goes exactly as we script it. Sadly, it is very difficult for some people to shake off habitual thinking. It doesn't sound like your folks are shutting you out, but accepting the idea of your sexuality in stages. You obviously love them, and I bet they love you the same way. Continue to give them time to adjust. Be grateful for what you can be, and for the time being let go of what you can't be grateful for. It seems like they raised a sensitive, sweet young man, so I bet they will come to accept you and your boyfriend with that same sweetness and sensitivity. Blessings on you all!
2006-11-22 08:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents may be having some trouble accepting you are gay. If they are accepting of you having your boyfriends over, that is a huge thing. It is quite common for parents to not want their children to be having sex in their own homes, even for straight children, so don't take their banning of this as a sign they aren't accepting of you.
I'm sure if your family knows, and do are not acting hostile towards you, you should be fine.
Goodluck
2006-11-22 09:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Shaun B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that your family accepts you as you are and that they acknowledge the existence of your boyfriend already means something. what kind of support do you want?
you have to understand one thing. parents are still quite "conservative" in the "idea" that their kids are having sex, even when the kid in question is an adult.
regardless of sexual orientation, i am sure that they wont allow another girl to stay overnight at your place even if she is your gf.
2006-11-22 06:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Russ Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daniel u have ur cake and now u want to flaunt it in front of ur family much against what they brought u up to be. Just because they have accepted ur sexuality that doesn't mean they have to accept it in their house. U r selfish in wanting more than they have to offer give them a break and a chance to really soak in the idea that their male son will never give them an heir because he chose to be the husband or wife of another male. I'm Bi and pray for half the acceptance u have from ur family. Respect their wishes and enjoy ur life. They haven't told u he can't participate in family functions have they? Just the idea of u having sex in the next bedroom with ur male lover in ur parents house seems weird.
2006-11-22 06:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
it might take them a while to be comfortable around your boyfriend. considering how most families react i think that they're doing pretty good.
give them some time, and let them get to know your bf. once they do they will probably see in him the same qualities that you see.
2006-11-22 06:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
With your families support, I'm sure they won't mind you pushing s..t uphill and giving your partner a blo. job in the house. Or will they?
2006-11-22 07:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋