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My husband is loving and caring when he is around. Problem is that he has become a workaholic in the past few months and spends weeks travelling the planet for his career. Meanwhile, I am home, 6-months pregnant, and caring for a 2 year old all alone and far from any family. To make matters worse, my career is staled due to visa issues (I have a degree from a world famous university). I feel pretty helpless. How would you feel about this?

2006-11-21 21:52:39 · 9 answers · asked by gnogni 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

9 answers

abandoned....simple...

2006-11-21 22:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by admiralawesome2006 2 · 0 0

As a woman it never ceases to amaze me how we don't look at things from our mens side. You said that you can't work because of your visa, you have a 2 year old at home, and you are now expecting your second child. Your husband has the sole responsibility of supporting his family. Please don't call him a workaholic or think he is purposely trying to ignore you. Have you looked at it from his side? Who will pay the bills, make sure you have food and clothing, take care of medical expenses, etc if he takes a lower paying job so he can stay closer to home? Find a mommy group, get out and make some friends. Take the time to thank you husband for being there for you and your growing family. There are a lot of women who wish they had your problem. Please count your blessings. When your husband comes home, give him a hug and let him know you appreciate the sacrifices he is making for you. Don't for one minute think he would rather be working somewhere than being home with his family. Good luck and God bless.

2006-11-22 01:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by creole woman 2 · 0 1

The money is nice I'll bet: Your going to have to either rethink your position with your hubby or, do something IE: separation or divorce.
That's what I'm saying about the money: I have grandson working for the Government in Iraq, he makes 126K a year but, is never home. His wife lavishes in the money, she'd rather have him home but, his income would drop considerable, like 25 K when asked she's quiet. No more Tattoo parlors, no more beauty shops, no more shopping expeditions. So, what's the cost of having hubby home?

You say you have a degree from a good Univ. why don't you use it here, where you live, Get a baby-sitter and go to work, millions of women work instead of sitting home and crying. Get out, maybe it'd be good for you. Go back to school, get a part time job.
You must know people in the "business" that could help you, try it. Your miserable at home.

2006-11-21 22:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0 1

it seems which you're bored which includes your marriage after 17 years, yet for you to be much less dissatisfied than maximum. a minimum of yours did not start up wtih diverse chemistry, so which you would be able to correctly be much less dissatisfied than every person else is while there is not diverse intercourse 17 years later. He shops. He chefs. You backyard. you detect your life uninteresting. you prefer your marriage have been distinctive than it relatively is ever been. Why could you assume it to alter now? He knows of you like pets. you be attentive to he would not. Why be disillusioned that he tells somebody he would not? that's not putting you down, it relatively is expressing his thoughts approximately animals. you're taking separate holidays, so why do you care the place his trip house is? Do you have toddlers? Does he have siblings or mum and dad? if so, possibly that flat is for family members. If that's a extreme-high quality flat, you ought to relish it from indoors. The Med ought to be very extreme-high quality in the evenings. I do think of you're incorrect in thinking that he's making an attempt to regulate you or positioned you down, per what you published. I understand there could be greater occurring. in case you have chose to interrupt out of your rut, do greater issues mutually, have greater intercourse, purchase your self a flat someplace you like for holidays, that's large in case you may get him to bypass alongside with you. possibly he's bored too. or possibly he's only pleased with you the way issues have been for 17 years.

2016-10-22 13:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Make your kids your career. Between you being sidetracked by a career and your husband not being around, they're gonna grow up with a void in their life that they will fill elsewhere. Teach your kids the right way so that they won't depart from it.

2006-11-21 22:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by ScottyJae 5 · 0 1

I will be very angry, but when we are marring we say that we are going to support itch others, so be passion, your time will came. he is just like that because he want to be a good husband and make enough money for you and your family

2006-11-21 22:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by sani 1 · 0 0

so, you are a foreigner...you cannot complaint as an American until you become an American, in the meantime take it like a wife and be happy when he is back home. Teach your child a second language or music, and stop watching TV.

2006-11-21 22:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by denonvillier 1 · 0 2

u need to speak up this to him and find a suitable thing

2006-11-21 22:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by Creative zest 3 · 2 0

bet you have no problem when his pay check is deposited ??

2006-11-21 22:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0 2

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