In todays society it seems that homosexuals just do not get into committed relationships early and that if they do the relationship is considered open to all sexual experiences (which i believe is a contradiction to the word committed, but maybe i am alone in this theory). My question is for those couples that have been together for a long time what is it that keeps your relationship together and at what age did you guys meet/start dating? Is an open relationship really a committed relationship? When you guys met how did you meet? Was it a "hook up" or did you go out on a date? And last but not least when did you guys move in together (after how long).
2006-11-21 21:44:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
We met in middle school i was in 7th she was in 8th you relation ship is lasting this long because we are commitied to each other we aren't in an opean relationship. The fist time we started seeing each orher she asked me out on a date then after awhile she askd me to be her gf. And i haven't moved into her house yet because we are buy one right now. So yeah that is about it.
2006-11-22 00:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've only been together as a couple 5 months (so not so much a long time). For what its worth it is a monogamous relationship. We discussed that if either of us ever felt the need for an open one, then it would be time to say goodbye.
We met last February on MySpace of all places even though we lived very close to each other and had many of same friends in real time. We dated for several months and finally moved in together 5 months ago.
What keeps us together is that we are each others best friend. We also know to keep our expectations of the other in check, that after awhile the newness wears off and you have adapt or accept each others faults.
Will it stand the test of time? Odds say like all relationships at our age, probably not, but we will enjoy the relationship as long as it does hold up, as long as we remain committed to it. Better to live for the moment than worry about what might happen 5 or ten years down the road.
2006-11-22 00:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Q What keeps our relationship together?
A Love and respect for each other, being best friends, understanding that we both have faults but they are not fatal. Laughter, lots of it. Support from our mutual families. Wiping away each others tears, many other things.
Q Is it an open relationship, commited.
A Commited, can't quite understand the open scenario, surely a recipe for disaster, but hey if it works for others good luck.
Q What age did we start dating. How did we meet?
A He was 21 I was 25 He used to be a customer in the pub I ran (very straight village pub in Wales) I left to run a London pub for 7 years. Came home to the village for a break, bumped into him in the old pub, we chatted, I gave him a lift home, he sent me a valentines card (signed) We had a long distance relationship which wasn't fair on both of us, I left London pub and moved in with him in a rented flat in Wales He was 28 and I was 32. We bought a house eleven years ago and are very happy together, don't get me wrong we do have our "off days" but they don't last.
If you read this Puffy hope all goes well for you both.
2006-11-22 01:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Paulo.GZ. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will find that all your queries relate to all relationships, straight or gay. If your question is really about sexual activity within the gay community and specifically within committed relationships and whether this is acceptable, then that is between the people involved and not for the judgement of others. I have been in 2 long term relationships (15yrs/12yrs), one of which was open and one of which was exclusive - both worked and we are all still very close friends. Finally, moving in together is no indication of ones commitment to a relationship, I prefer to have my own space.
2006-11-21 22:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by paul h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all lets not act like hets dont do the same thing. Plenty of heteros have open relationships, or one night stands. I do agree that alot of homosexual men tend to have open relationships. I tack this one up to the fact that they are men. Men like to have sex, it is a proven fact that they think about sex every 6 seconds. If women would let them, straight men would go having sex with just about anything that moves. But women dont allow that and demand commitment. 2 men however, both having the same things on there minds, allow each other to do this. Sorry if Im offending any of the gay boys out there, dont get me wrong, I love you all, but its pretty much true! And then you have 2 women, who both demand commitment, which is why we uhaul it so fast, lol. Hate to stereotype here, but some of them fit.
2006-11-21 23:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay couples are no different then straight ones....its not about what sex your dating or in love with ... its the person. I've been witih my gf 3 years now...i met her in my junior year of high school and her and I were best friends for about 6 months until things started to progress.What hols us together is our love for eachother and our love of being with one another. Theres nothing different...which most people think there is...its the same struggle and all that as in a straight relationshop. It wasnt a hook up...things just slowly progressed. She moved in with me about 1 1/2 years ago...after 1 1/2 years of being together. ...I really noticed that gay men are more out for fun and sex than real relationships...but hey im not one to judge..and thats a sterotype....gay people are as normal and real as straight...we just like the same sex. Thanks for the question...god bless!!!
2006-11-21 21:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋