don;t know what to do?

Question

i am unhappy, i love my husband but he does not make me happy in any way, he is so selfish and inconsiderate he never thinks of me, every thing is so stuffed up, i remember being so in love with him i would do anything but now i am considering leaving him but at the same time i don't want to, he is older than me as acts it i want to be able to live life to the fullest, how do I enjoy life and have my husband

Answer 1

think hes taken you for granted, but if u still really love him then there is no point in leaving him. but then again if u think ul be happier and better off without him then maybe you should consider starting over...

talk to him first...tell him that your unhappy, communicate...show him what you want...if he still does not get the point. better do something about it before you end up hating him and yourself....

Answer 2

First off l want to say BEER MAN you are a creep. Grow up !!! I personally think you and your husband have some serious talking to do. Perhaps he is in a rut also and doesn't understand that the way he is treating you is unacceptable. It happens sometimes that husbands and wives for that matter just take each other for granted so much that in the end they don't even realize they are doing it. Trust me, been there and done that. Why do you say everything is stuffed up ? Where there is love there is always hope !! Tell your husband exactly how you feel and try to make him understand that you do love him but you can no longer handle his selfish and inconsiderate ways. Either he needs to change his bad habits or you will take a much needed break from him to sort out what is important to you. Tell him it takes two to make a good marriage and your needs and feelings are just as important as his. Best of luck to you, l hope all works out well.

Answer 3

Women- complex. Men- simple. So, let me ask you something. Do you motivate him to show you the love that you need? Women, generally, need to be shown love. Something that we are not good at. Men, generally, need to feel respected. Something that most women can't understand. His love motivates your respect which motivates his love. The opposite is true as well. So who starts this circle of events? Whoever is the most mature I guess. Let me ask you another question (I know these may seem brutal, but I know these self probing questions are relevant): Would you want to come home to yourself? Is there anything that you do that would iritate yourself?
You see? I have come to realize that women tend to hold the power in the relationship BECAUSE men are so simple. I'm not trying to downplay the role of a man in the relationship, but it is so true. I mean, you try to treat your man like a buddy, yet show him the proper respect that men crave, and you'll have a man that will lay down his very life for you. You want to see his eyes pop out of his head? Tell him how much you respect him and what he brings to the household. Do this a few times, then drop a hint about something you want to do. I bet your wish will come true.
Good luck in seeking the advice you need.

Answer 4

You need to sit down and talk. Tell him what is bothering you. Also, you have probably gotten into a rut, doing the same old things. If he hasn't taken you out for a while, take him out. Do something silly, at least once per month. It's hard to keep the buzz going in long term relationships, you both have to work at it.

Luck

Answer 5

oh dear you sound like your stuck in a rut...you really need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel about things.. you could go trying to seek marrige counciling but i think they will just suggest a trial seperation, mybe you should suggest a trial seperation to him it might make him sit up and take notice, but you have to get it across that you are very serious about this, if he doesnt want to make the effort you may just have to bite the bullet and leave, i reckon that might just get the reaction you need from him and he will realise what he has or may lose.if you dont get any reation out of him it just goes to say that he cant be bothered and its time for you to cut your loss' and start again wheather that be by yourself or go looking for someone else. it sounds to me that he may be also caught in his own rut and doesnt really want to make an effort. good luck whatever happens. X

Answer 6

Well you have to select one thing to live for yourself or to live with this relations. It is a human tendency to have happy life, your partner loving you, show care. You are not wrong to leave him if he is selfish and inconsiderate.

But since you have spent so much time with this person you need to talk to him. You have to be open, ask him what is ur value in his life. If he changes good for you if he doesn't you have clear vision what to do.

There is a saying it is better to get things clear now rather than regretting later.

Answer 7

hi there. Firstly, look back and see what it is that YOU personally have changed for the worse. Then, try not to change your husband, obviuosly, you have tried, it hasnt worked; change yourself and be what you would want your husband be to you. He will change. Strife breeds strife, but goodness will reap you joy in your marriage. Love him, praise him and be proud of him. he is your man, and he will have a reality check when he sees you are not ready to fight him but to adore him. Do this, it will work. good day.

Answer 8

Sit down and tell him how you feel. So many times in relationships thing go unsaid and lead to splitting up. He may have his own problems and need you to notice. Don't throw it all away until you've said what you need to say.

Answer 9

tell him hes being a pig to you and its making you unhappy explain that your considering leaving him if that doesnt give him the boot up the *** he needs it obveiously isnt as important to him and you have your answer

Answer 10

Just do what you need to do,go out do whatever you want without him,maybe hell be the one that starts missing you...Good Luck...