I know someone who is a very nice, intelligent person but can't seem to find anyone who would love her? She is attractive and bright and cares for other people and has a great sence of humor. Are some people just ment to be alone for the rest of their lives? And are they un-lovable? What can I tell her to help her?
2006-11-21 20:36:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You obviously love her, why dont you tell her.
I dont think people are unlovable I think some people can make it difficult for you to love them, they keep you at arms length due to underlying problems maybe.
Im sure if she is as lovely as you say she is then she will find someone who will love her as she deserves. Give her a big hug.xx
2006-11-21 20:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is lovable in their own way. She just has yet to meet that person that understands who she is and loves her more than anyone else. I guess the truth is, some people never find that person. Your friend seems like a very lovable person that many people would like to be around. Maybe she needs to make some new friends.. and get out there more and see the world a bit. Maybe she will find parts of herself that she didn't know existed and maybe she will find her soulmate out there somewhere. Good luck to her... and give her lots of friend-love and hugs in the meantime...
2006-11-22 03:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as "un-lovable", and there's no such thing as "meant to be alone". The best idea is probably for her to concentrate on enjoying life, going out with friends, building her self-confidence and her sense of completeness. Once she stops trying so hard, she might just be surprised, as someone might find her. Love is something which grows over time between two people, and she needs to let it happen in its own time. Life is funny, and she'll probably meet someone when she least expects it.
2006-11-22 06:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not. I'm just like your friend (not being cocky, I've been told this by many of my mates) and I find it difficult to meet women. Most of the girls I've been interested in end up becoming nothing more than mates. Not that that's a bad thing, but I wanted more.
I know I'll meet a wonderful girl one day, but she's taking her sweet time!
Just be there for her. That's all she needs, A smile and a hug goes a long way!
2006-11-21 20:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not saying she is but having a sence of humor,being bright , intelligent and careing she just might be a bit overpowering for some people when they first meet her.tell her to tone it down a bit till they get to know her better.i bet she is a lovely person as well.
2006-11-21 20:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by joe123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people like this, they are usually very independent and like their own space. I think they are scared of needy people and prefer someone strong minded and independent like them. I wouldnt say they are unlovable, there are probably plenty of people that would like to go out with them its just that they can give off the signal that warns people not to get too close
2006-11-21 22:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-21 20:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ivan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-21 20:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is terrified of getting hurt, that shes not worth loving and thinks she has to spend her life been their for others, she needs to let her guard down a bit and relax.
2006-11-22 03:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
un-lovable??
each and everyone are lovable...
the greatst 'being" who loves her is God...
and don't you love her???
is she yur friend?then you love her..so she's lovable really..the best thing that yu can do to help her is to tell her that she's lovable.but most af all..mean it.and how do you define lovable??
is it just being pretty and beautiful??
2006-11-21 20:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by yucanzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋