My husband is too tired to have sex with me but not too tired to play video games.?

Question

My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and we just had another baby 2 months ago, and I am practically down to my original weight, I have no stretch marks but he continues to have 101 excuses why he doesn't want to have sex. But when it comes to playing video games or downloading music, he has no problem staying up late. He has gone to bed hours early because he is too tired for sex, but why then the last two nights is he more than awake and well to play video games. He doesn't want to touch me hardly ever, sometimes I think he may not even be into women because I have always had compliments on my looks, even though I know that looks are not everything. I am 6 years younger than him, he is 30 and I would think that I try my best to be a good wife to him, I avoid nagging him, Why doesn't he want me anymore?? Why does he care more about playing with games than playing with me??

Answer 1

Something is bugging your husband. You need to find out what. He is upset and he is not having sex with you because of it. You most likely did nothing wrong but some little stupid thing is stuck in his head and he is upset about it.

It is a male thing. Find out by communicating with him. If he plays then game the you play it with him. You can make it real fun by betting sex favors for the winner. Let your mind and his start the ball rolling.

Answer 2

Let me just start with this - there is nothing wrong with you! I'm sure he knows that you are gorgeous. what i think has probably happened is that he has entered the comfort zone - big time. You have children and I'm sure you do alot of running around after them and probably most of the household chores. Actually I'm willing to bet that you do pretty much everything for him as if he were like another child you are looking after! Sound familiar? He may be seeing you in your mother role and only your mother role. This is not uncommon, particularly after the second child. He needs to see you as seperate from being a mum. Sometimes that's hard for you because most of your energy would be directed into the other role. Remember what you were like before you had children. How did you behave towards him? Do you still get playful with him? What is different now?. My suggestion, the next time he chooses the games, put on some sexy lingerie, dim the lights and put yourself between him and the tv. Suggest to him that you have another game you can play together that will be much more satsfying than the video game. If he says he's not in the mood - don't be put off simply shrug you shoulders say 'ok well I guess I'm just going to have to play by myself, but your more than welcome to join me if you change your mind' Then simply take yourself off to the bedroom and start without him - I'm sure he won't take too long before curiosity gets the better of him and he starts ripping of his clothes. Have fun with it.

Answer 3

He is like most men...there is no physical strain when he plays video games..but god forbid he may lose his breath if he decides to have sex. Try not to take it personal...you guys have been together for 4 years and the two of you need to find a way to reestablish you sexual relationship. Have you asked him...why he doesn't seem to want to have sex. It could be because he does not want to have any more kids. If that is the case maybe he should get the big V.
Or maybe the two of you can find a birth control that works for both of you!
Try not to take it too personal..but don't be too quiet about because you can't fix a problem if you don't talk about it. You need to let him know that this making you feel as though he is not attracted to you and you want to know what it will take in order to fix the problem!!
Good Luck!! Most married couples have to deal with this situation from time to time. Especially when you start having children.

Answer 4

Depends on a persons level of maturity and their sex drive as well. Also, these are the little signs ppl should look out for to make sure the spouse/partner is being faithful. I suggest before jumping to conclusions, have a talk with the other person and letting them know how you feel. There are things you could do to spice up the relationship as well. Make sure there is a clean house for him to come home too. If he seems a bit immature than maybe right now his video games will be more important to him so you will have to decide how much of the neglect you are willing to take. Good luck!

Answer 5

Some guys actually don't like the fact of having sex with women who have had children. Why, is beyond me, since they are the main reason why women have children.

I say give it some time, my husband went through the video game phase, I threatened to put my foot through the PS2. It was almost as if it replaced me. My husband was depressed at the time. Maybe your husband is feeling like less of a man? Something might be seriously bothering him. You two should definitely sit down and talk about it, get everything out in the open. Tell him that the next time something is bothering him, talk to you about it, tell him to pull you closer and to not push you away when he really needs you the most. Good luck, God Bless.

Answer 6

I don't get it either and I'm in the same boat as you. It's 4am now and mine is playing video games as we speak. I'm 34, he's 31. I'm not fat,ugly, old or prude, and I try hard, too. I'm beginning to think video games are an addiction, a true escape, and that it's simply not as much work as intimate entertainment. I don't know. My husband uses a billion excuses, too, and even said that he just wasnt as sexual as a person as I was. I believed him, an even began to think he may be gay until I found out the hard way he is not. E-mail me if you like. I'm a mom and it sounds like we have some things in common.

Answer 7

Your husband has lost interest in sex with you. He is taking sex as second hand thing, whereas you are sexually active and younger by him with six years. He is more interested in playing video games and downloading of music. When he says tha he is tired for sex, say to him that you need sex and as a husband he should not avoid it. Keep him embraced and love and kiss him. He will come to you. Good Luck.

Answer 8

If it comes down to video games or sex with my beautiful wife it will be sex everytime no matter how many kids there are. I have 2 and 1 on the way and theres no way i'd choose video games.

Answer 9

He is addicted to the computer, games and such. He probably still loves you. I have the same problem with the wife, but it is menopause and depression related. It really gets frustrating. As silly as it may sound, make a date with him several times a week, go out somewhere, and have him agree he is all yours that night. (No games that night) Those games help him relieve stress, and he has forgotten sex does as well.
I would be grateful for a wife who wanted me.

Answer 10

Look up cheat codes for his games, play the games with him, get some 2 player games that at least you'll like, though hopefully something you'll both like. Dress up like a librarian, school teacher, school girl, even a sexy nerd. Make his favorite video game into a stripping game.