if your husband/wife or boyfriend /girlfriend leaves you, then what are you left with? isn't it wiser to be single and establish your own life. then our happiness can not be shattered by their disappearance if it all goes wrong?
2006-11-21 19:41:48 · 16 answers · asked by jay Lo 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
we are not ment to be solitary people, We need something to put our faith, love and trust in. And at some point all of our partners will leave us when they die but isnt as the old phrase goes better to have loved and lost thatn to enver loved at all? I mean i would rather love and know i can and get hurt than never feel love at all??
2006-11-21 19:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a terrible tragedy that people put so much expectation and anxiety into their relationships.
Truly, the only person you can count on to not ever leave you or let you down is God.
However, I do not recommend the lonely life of single-hood. I would suggest instead that you put your faith and hope in God, and not rely on your partner to fulfill all of your deepest hopes and dreams.
We need to remember that we are all human beings, capable of making mistakes and hurting feelings.
I also don't believe in the concept of a "soul mate." I think that if two people can put God at the center of their relationship and then build on that foundation, allowing each other the grace to be human, that you can have a successful relationship.
I have been married for 8 years now and am very happy (first and only husband). Good luck to you and Godspeed.
I would also recommend reading the books "Love and Respect," and "Every Man's (and every Woman's) Battle," they both changed my marriage for the better.
2006-11-21 19:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what if it doesn't go wrong? Sure there is always a chance a relationship could dissolve but isn't it worth the risk? If you truely love someone then you would be willing to build your life around them and build your life WITH them. And even if the relationship does dissolve afetr a while , wouldn't it have been worth it, even if just for a while ,to love someone and have them love you back?
2006-11-21 19:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by DarkAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer is already in the question. It should be that so many people build their life WITH a partner NOT "around" a partner. You might end up one lonely person if you don't have more faith in yourself.
2006-11-21 19:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by sleep well 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with u 100% ..... a lot of my friends feel like their life is incomplete without a man .... i don't get this ..... U don't need a partner to make you...... independence is a wonderful thing ... I am not saying not to ever fall in love or never have a partner , but i really think that u need to keep some of yourself to yourself, hold a part of u back ,that way, like u say if a relationship does fail u do not fall to pieces.....
2006-11-21 19:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very cynical, you sound hurt. Just because you are a couple doesn't mean you have to build your life around them, but sharing a life with someone is a very rewarding experience, losing someone is a very painful experience but its better to have loved and lost than never loved at all as they say..
2006-11-21 19:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a spreadsheet you have the right answer. Your heart doesn't know about the spreadsheet of sensible. You must be strong enough and wise enough to know if the relationship you are in is based on truth, trust, and communication.
2006-11-21 19:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have it wrong. i didnt build my life around my wife i was help by GOD to build a new life with my wife of 29 years.if a married couple stays together for 5 years or more then they do have a chance of living together the rest of their days. in my opinion divorce is the cowards easy way out.it is a sin to divorce and remarry.it is till death do you part.many men see their wives as not very pretty or attractive after a few years of marriage but do they ever look at what their wives have to look at as well?
2006-11-21 19:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Life if full of laughter and excitement when two people are together. This experience is very positive, so cannot give up on love for fear of loosing it one day. Be courageous why die before death.
2006-11-21 19:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by kalabalu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can we do. We have to take the bull by the horns and live life. If you fall in love go with the flow. if it works out; great. If not, get on with life.
2006-11-21 19:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by gutsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋