im 29 have psychiatric problems that im working through. but when i think about girlfriends i dont want anyone that just comes along..somebody for everyone an all that crap....i would specifically like a girl of 19/ 23 plump or chubby not obese, she must have pale fair skin and fair features like ginger hair or blonde natural.she must be white caucasian .... .i dont want dark haired girls or any girl with a tan, i dont want anybody of colour or ethnicity i dont want it...these are my preferances for an ideal girl for me is this so wrong?? the way i feel if i cant have what i want, i would rather have nothing and die alone.....is this so wrong? im not racist but these are what i want or nothing. nothing at all
2006-11-21 19:37:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
im afraid i'll never get what i want that them requirements will never happen for me..it even keeps me awake at night
2006-11-21 19:44:34 · update #1
Its not wrong but you should stay open minded. You might find the girl who looks exactly how you describe your perfect girlfriend and she have a horrible personality... something to think about
2006-11-21 19:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by h0axsp1d0r 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's wrong but I will warn you I had a similar thing. I wanted a tall, broad guy. Needed to have a deep voice and dark hair etc etc. I am now happily married to a guy that fits the dark hair section and is very, very blurry on the rest. I think somewhere along the way I picked up this idea of a guy and wouldn't budge. I met another guy and we were 'just friends'. He chased me for over a year to become more and I really did like him so I gave it a go. Best damn idea I ever had. Who's to say you wont find the girl that fits this image of yours, maybe you will. Or you could be like me and end up blissfully married to some girl who just happened to barge on in to your life.
2006-11-21 20:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Elisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that at all. I study astrology and I could tell by your Mars sign what sign you are attracted to sexually; by your Venus sign, how you flirt and attract partners; and by your descendant what type of person you have a 'weakness' for. If you have psychiatric problems it will show up in your astro-chart as well. If you check out your own numerology, it is incredibly insightful as to where you are at in life, what phase you are going through and at what age you will be when certain things come to fruition.
Other than that-what is so wrong with wanting what we want and not settling for less? All those things you named are on the outside-appearance& men are 'visual'. It doesn't mean you are shallow either, just for some people-they have to be around 'beautiful things', beautiful people-it's just who they are. That is probably in your chart also!
I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for, but look deeper-like life-appearances fade away, there are all kinds of 'wrinkles' some you can iron out & some never go away,....nobody's perfect, right?
2006-11-21 20:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Blake,
We all have these 'ideal' types of people we think we fancy. Mine is a dark haired man with arresting blue eyes! But guess what? When I met him, he was so jealous that there was no way the relationship could have existed. The man I have truly loved was so different from this ideal, that even I couldn't believe that I was with him. It is OK to have the ideal but don't be surprised if reality comes along and bites you on the bum! And please, please don't turn away someone who could make you happy for the rest of your life just because she is not your image of the'ideal woman'. Keep an open mind and good luck man.
2006-11-21 20:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by marimu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong! It's your prerogative to date the "type" you want. I prefer tall men, even though I am very short. I have taken a lot of flak for dating tall men exclusively. The way I feel about it is that it is one of the few things you have control over -- who you're with.
That being said, you may find that once you work through your psychiatric issues more thoroughly some of this compulsion will diminish. If it doesn't, don't worry about. Date who you want!
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2016-04-13 18:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants anyone who just comes along (not for a relationship that is), and there's no reason you should take just anyone.
Interesting to look at what you've said here and in previous q's, are you sure you're not setting yourself up to fail? You seem to have very specific wants, an inability to persue them, and have made your mind up to "die alone" if you can't get them.
Don't turn your back on the world by making excuses...
2006-11-21 19:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by garfet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 'form' can advise something. there is truly no favor to worry about it. i surely am courting a guy who, isn't between the 'kinds' of the adult men i'm used to courting. there is like, jock, undesirable boy, nerd, geek and so on. Like as an get mutually, I used therefore far the undesirable boy form, entire jerks, yet my contemporary boyfriend is stupid, variety, and responsible, no longer something of which any of my ex boyfriends were. there is also a form of visual attraction, like what they placed on, how they gown and so on. I informed my boyfriend he's distinct from the kinds of guy's i have dated, and when I informed him that I meant it in a great way, and she or he's probable declaring that in a reliable way besides, if she says that you're the 'entire kit of each and every of the pieces she loved in her previous boyfriends' I doubt there is something to worry about. And in case you wanna examine him out, bypass ahead, do purely not instigate something.
2016-11-29 08:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,looking for a specific type of a girl for me is very much wrong...you know what when it comes to love of course we have a lot aof basis or shall we say likes,most of the time if there is a perfect one we go for it.But if you feel love to somebody all those criteria you are looking will be vanished in the sense that when you fall in love it's not fully your mind who speaks but its your heart almost evertime...now i suggest feel free to accept whats really in your heart.follow your heart but do not allow your mind dominates almost all your life.Remember love is blind.....but let me ask you this time,do you believe on it?
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