I am pregnant, and we were trying for a while, its all gone okay, and we have both been really excited, but now I have ahd a change of heart, what if i am a crap mum? how much does labour hurt? what if my husband leaves? do i even want a child yet? I am usually such a positive person, but these thoughts have just jumped in my head today and are really scaring me, any ideas what is causing it and how to get back to being positive?
2006-11-21 19:28:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
babe you are 100% normal im having number 5 and trust me i feel the same at times!!! im about 23weeks now and i still have days where i cry coz im not gonna be a good mum!!!!
blame the rotten hormones
you are gonna be just fine x x x x
2006-11-21 19:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal. At least what I know of. I have three kids, and I think every new parent goes through this anxiety at some point of time before the birth of their new baby. It will pass. Try to think about all the good experiences you can have and that are possible now that you will be a parent. Think about how your going to be the best damn parent to your child as you can be. I know it's scary, but it's natural. Talk you friends that you can trust and confide in, and they can help comfort you which can help relieve some of the pressure. It is never bad as you think it is, and your realize this once the baby arrives. You might even laugh for thinking suck dreadful thoughts later down the road!
2006-11-21 19:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by jay_p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is completely normal in this stage of your pregnancy. all pregnant women get that feeling! labor is different for everyone. so noone can tell you exactly how it will feel for you. but in my experinces, the contractions are worse than the delievery! when the baby drops into the birth canal, it's almost a relief!! you'll be great at being a mom, you just have to love your child as you would want to be loved as a child, and I'm sure your husband won't leave you, especially if you've been trying for a while!! relax and think about when you get to bring your precious little angel home!!
2006-11-21 19:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every pregnant Mom goes through those feelings. Your emotions are on a roller coaster due to the hormones in your body. You have to think positive and give everything a chance. You can tell your doctor if you stay depressed more than a day or so.
No one has a crystal ball and you can be happy and have a great life.
We cannot live our lives in fear of what might be.
You are too far along to terminate now.
Labor is not difficult and billions of women have done it. Once you see the baby you will love him/her. If you have postpartum depression tell your doctor right away.
Blessings little Momma
2006-11-21 19:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax. You are going to be fine. It's quite normal to be excited then and now feel terrible about the whole thing.
Well labour hurts, but let it be. It's the way to deliver your beautiful baby. It's worth it.
If your husband leaves, he is being irresponsible. But you must not be to the baby.
All your worries will burden the baby and stressful.
Try to talk to your baby (in your stomach) every morning and before you go to bed. Read to your baby. Enjoy the moments that your baby kicks you. Enjoy the whole process.
You can log on to www.baby.com to be member and they will e-mail you the process of pregnancy every week. From there you will know what's going on in your stomach and feel relax.
Take care...
2006-11-21 20:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by eunice_sng71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) If you're worried about being a "crap mum," you're ALREADY a better parent than all of the idiot 16-year-olds who get pregnant these days.
B) It hurts a lot, that's why they drug you up beyond belief.
C) Then he's not someone you'd want raising your kid in the first place.
D) Don't know, you'd have to ask yourself that. On the bright side, you've got another three-and-a-half months to think about that one.
2006-11-21 19:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult your doctor. Could be pre-partum depression, or more likely, a case of the blues. Hormones are in fluxation, and this case is probably nothing more than blues or jitters. But, to be on the safe side, and to be in the most positive caring position for both yourself and your baby--see the doctor. Take care of yourself and your baby!!
2006-11-21 19:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thoughts will continue to go through your head untill the baby arrives then every thing will be just perfect and life falls into place you wont be a bad mother,you will be the best mother you can be and trust me i have had three babies and scared through all of the pregnancys with lots of unanswered questions but when they arrives everything changes,and trust me all the kisses you will get hugs and cuddles and smiles and laughs and when they sleep on you its just very precious and yes time consuming but all your worry and scardiness will go away
2006-11-21 19:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a baby too and im only 17, trust me ALL moms go through all these feelings. It's a big change in your life so your not sure of yourself. But everything will be ok. Just dont stress yourself out about everything, im sure you'll be a great mom!: )
2006-11-21 19:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lololol you are just having a normal preganacy hormone thing.It's normal i used to have night mares about my worst fears.Dont worry it will pass talk to your husband and docotor about this or a close friend they will talk you into being positive again.Important thing is there is nothing you are going through thats abnormal you and your hubby and baby are going to be fine.I wish you luck
2006-11-21 19:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by sadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋