hey im 17 i want to be pregnant. please help?

Question

i keep thinking i want to be pregnant, even tho i know how hard it must be. i leep finding myself convinceing my boyfriend to not wear a condom, he agrees cos i'm on the pill but for some reason when i have sex i dont take the pill till my next period. i know i want a baby and thats why i do that but trying to convince me otherwise wont help cos i know im too young but subconciously i neeed one.
aaah please help..

Answer 1

The same thing happened to me. I believe that its just your body's way of telling you thtat you are equipped for mothering now. I say, if you are able to support a child, go for it! Otherwise, you should probably wait a couple of years. Try adopting a puppy or kitten. I have eight cats. It helps.

Answer 2

I can understand that you want a baby.. ive been wanting a baby since i was 13.. but i never acted upon it. I just knew i had to wait till it happened and the time was right. I am now 22 and accidentily fell pregnant 5 months ago. I had only been with my boyfriend for 6 months but we both decided to keep it since we werent responsible enough to becarful with the protection. But we definatly did not fall preggo on purpose. The baby hasnt even come yet and already there is so much to pay for!! if your gonna have a baby at least make sure you can afford to make a nursery. Go online and look at what you need. We've made a list and its gonna cost us about $4000 just to get all the nursery set up... please think about.. its a life changing decision. good luck.

Answer 3

You need to seek help through professional counseling. You are being deceptive and selfish. Your boyfriend has no idea that you are trying to trick him into getting you pregnant and that you aren't taking your birth control pills. People like you give girls who do genuinely get pregnant while using birth control responsibly a bad name. Girls like you are exactly why I tell my sons they better use a condom everytime no matter what the girl will tell you. You are undermining your relationship with your boyfriend and will only bring anger and resentment into the relationship.

To top it off you are being incredibly selfish because you are not in any position to give your child the best possible life. That in itself shows that you are neither mature enough or responsible enough or in any way ready to become a parent. You can not possibly financially provide for your child, welfare is NOT being financially responsible, that is sticking the rest of us tax payers with the bill for your desires to 'have a baby' because you are searching for something that you will not find or can not expect a baby to provide. A baby comes with it's own needs not the ability to provide for yours. A baby will complicate your life, as well as the life of your boyfriend who did not ask for you to take it upon yourself to financially obligate him. How will you feel when your child is old enough to realize it is going without because you decided you must have it right now.
You won't still be with his father 15 years down the line and how do you think life as a single mother is? Will you attract the kind of husband you hope to have one day with baby baggage? Why on earth would you ever want to throw your life away and limit your options before it even begins?
Perhaps you are searching for someone to 'love you' well this isn't the way, get a puppy. I pitty your boyfriend.
I think you need to seek counseling to find out what issue it is under the surface that is causing you to feel this way and want to sabatoge your future. Perhaps are you depressed? Or suffering from sort of chemical imbalance? are you just sick of school and want to leave? If so talk to your parents there are educational alternatives....

Answer 4

your gonna do what your gonna do, but consider the child. You arent old enough to even go to the pub yet, what will happen when you wan tot go out with mates? how sure are you that the boyfriend will stay with you? young relationships dont often survive i am afraid, and being a single mother is the hardest job in the world. Perhaps it might be better to wait a few years, could you really live with tricking your boyfriend into fathering the child, chances are he would hate you for it. Wait until you are both ready, and remember you still have a lot of good years left! live a little first!

Answer 5

Does ure boyfriend even know you want to have a child? It seems to me like he doesnt use a condom because he thinks ure taking the pill. Regardless of age you really should talk to ure partner before trying to have a baby; Its really not fair on him if u secretly fall pregnant. Also you have to consider how you would feel if he didnt want to stand by you and the baby and how would you cope alone finacially not to mention emotionally.
Having a child is a big step but can feel like an even bigger one if ure alone.

Answer 6

You are far too young to think about having a child.
There is obviously something that is lacking in your life, if you have love to give then consider getting a pet, until then you need to finish school, learn how to live in the real world before you bring an innocent baby in the picture.

Answer 7

You are going through a hormonal stage that all teens go through when they think how great it would be to have a baby. Well it isn't it is hard. Just remember it is a phase that your body is going through playing tricks on your mind but you are not ready to have a baby yet. And do not tell him to take that condom off and remember your birth control pills.

Answer 8

are you sure you are ok?pls speak with your parents or a shrink.having babies is not a joke it's a very serious thing.You'll need money and support.Or do you want to have a baby and the baby be taken away from you just cos you cant care for it?pls take things easy this matter is too serious for you to play with we are talking about some body's life here.Give it a little time and you'll know when the time is right for you to have a baby.In the mean time please concentrate on school.

Answer 9

i think.. at your age, you're too young to get pregnant. you're only 17, a teenager.. you still want to go out there with your friends having a good time. come to think that if you have your baby, you can never do what you want to do.. you cant have your mother watch your little angel forever my dear.. your life will be change.. my suggestion, finish your education.. that is a must! that is all you can have that nobody can take it away from you... =) listen and learn..

Answer 10

If u want a baby or something like that so badly, adopt when ur old enough or become a "big sister" or something... But yah u do need help lol talk to a doctor or shrink :)