it's really hard cause we have 2 kids and been togethr for more than 10 yrs i feel like ****.. sorry but no other way to explain.. please help!!!!!!!!!!!! don't know what to do
2006-11-21 19:10:47 · 11 answers · asked by anna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll say it again! Dump his ***!
2006-11-21 19:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't you love him anymore?
I read other answers and people seem so quick to say dump him, your turn, whatever. it is your life and you will have to make the decision. You should look at both of you to see why he might have done it. Ask yourself - can you trust him ever again - is he going to do it again ? But I believe the most important thing is - do you love him? If so nothing else probably does not matter and you will learn how to forgive and how to forget.
Don't we all make mistakes of some sort?
2006-11-22 12:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by homeuser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all up too you!!! If you want to work it out and forgive him stay and that if he wants to stay. If not start making your moves A.S.A.P. and move on with your lives. Something must have been missing in the relationship if your husband cheated. He was disrespectful to you and your children. Men usually cheat because the are missing something in their lives and are trying to get it back in some way.
2006-11-22 03:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Milko M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do 10 years of marriage and 2 kids have to do with anything? He has chosen to throw all that away. Make sure child support, alimony, etc. are sorted out, then build a better life for you and your kids. Neither you nor they need this creep in their lives.
2006-11-22 03:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if children are involved then it is worth trying to resolve. Is he the one who got someone else pregnant? If so, then this is going to be a lot more complicated... You have to figure out how much this marriage means to you. Is he very close to the kids? Does he at all consider your feelings and wishes? Does he intend to keep seeing her? You have to decide. No one can do it for you.
2006-11-22 03:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he sorry for it? is he willing to see a therapist? have u talked to him, and told him how much it hurt u? and did he respond by acknowledging it, or promising not to do it again, or did he minimize it and see it as no big deal? what to do will be decided by his response, if he wants to work on the marriage, and if u think u can get past what he has done, go for it, if he isn't sorry than what's there to gain, what kind of future is there? depends on how he responds to it.
2006-11-22 09:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really difficult. But you should leave him. You'll never be able to look at him the same way anyway. You have to leave him...Its the only way. Theres plenty of men out there just leave him,
2006-11-22 03:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its not YOUR problem if he screws up, its HIS. he's the losing party here, not you. work at it if u can, but if cannot then its time to move on and accept reality.
2006-11-22 03:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by aishah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DiVORCE.
EVEN IF YOU TWO STAY TOGETHER, THAT AFFAIR AND THAT OTHER BABY WILL ALWAYS BE BETWEEN YOU, THINGS WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN.
2006-11-22 03:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM?
THEN ITS YOUR TURN TO CHEAT
2006-11-22 11:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋