2006-11-21 19:03:12 · 34 answers · asked by anna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him.
2006-11-21 19:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I loved my husband so much that when he and I were getting back together, there was a possibility that the girl he was with at the time could have been pregnant. Who knows how true that was, but that is what she had claimed. Anyway, I was ready to be a step-mother because I just wanted to be with him, I would have accepted his mistakes along with his good. Honestly if he does not hate himself for cheating on you and does not show remorse for what he has done and does not beg for your forgivness and tell you that he loves you and please please work things out with him, then get the hell out of that marriage because that is on the top of the list for a divorce, even if you are a religious person and do not believe in divorce, that is one reason to leave and it says somewhere in the bible that would be a reason to get a divorce, but you may love him and not want to be away from him. This experience might change him for the better and make him be loyal to you and love you the way you want, otherwise, leave, get out of that marriage if you can. I tried to leave my husband once, it was so hard, I was only gone for 3 weeks and then I moved back in, but after a week and a half I was already spending every night with him, so that is why we got back together. In fact, you have to atleast have a seperation. If you stayed, it would only allow him to do it again. That doesn't mean you can't ever go back to him. Make sure he has changed and is begging for your return before you do.
2006-11-21 19:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The human heart was not designed to endure pain such as this for an earthly lifetime. Although the idea of divorce may seem hard and scary in the beginning, the result will be a good thing for you as you will not have to deal with holding and hiding a lie (cheat) inside, and feel it eating away at you. Leave him, forgive him (so you can be free inside to enjoy peace of mind and heart), and get ready for a much better situation to come into your life. Have faith. Remember, when food goes bad in the refrigerator, you don’t eat it and hope, you toss it immediately.
2006-11-21 19:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you. What do you want to do. I think that you need to talk to him and finfd out why he did this. He is responsble for his actions. It is a proven fact that when men leave the house and go to another womanthey do it for the sex. where as when a woman cheats she is doing it because the new man in her life is fulfilling an emotional need. this in no way puts the blame on you. but you do need to look at your home life over last six months for some of the answers. also Try praying and get your strength from the lord.
2006-11-21 19:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Froggy_45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU HAVE TO ASK WHAT TO DO !!!!!!!!!!!!
he cheated on you -she's pregnant. once a cheat alway's a cheat.if she really is preg.and keep's it ,she will alway's be in his life. they obviously didn't use condem's .have you been checked for std's? you deserve better. leave him. get a job.find another guy .show him your better than him and you don't need a cheat.if you have kid's do it for them!! don't show the boy's that's how a wife is treated and don't show the girl's this is what a husband does!!!!!!!!!! if you have kid's THEY KNOW EVERYTHING !!! been there .done that. now i have a great guy and guess who's still lookin for love !!!!
2006-11-21 20:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by freefairie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of the marriage vows doesn't he understant.....love, honor,trust, faithful until death do you part.?? I guess he forgot or didn't really care.
You have been cheated on, get an attorney and sue the creep.
If he is sincerely sorry and will go to counseling....then forgive him.
But geesh.....he has concieved a child with another woman. That is big time betrayal.
Be strong and moveon it you need to. You deserve a good man.
2006-11-21 19:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices, leave or stay. Only you can decide. But if you choose to stay then be prepared for him to spend the next 18 years providing financial support for this child (assuming Mom intends to have the child and keep it). If he also intends to be a part of the child’s life, beyond the financial--and I hope he’s man enough to do that--then make darn sure you’re able to handle it without harboring any resentment toward the child.
2006-11-21 19:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fill for divorce and/or separation because once he cheats he'll do it again. In your heart you may love him, but love isn't going to fix what has happened. Although, it will probably be difficult to leave what you are comfortable with, you deserve so much better at the same time. Good Luck!
2006-11-21 19:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Pinkalious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ruin any chance the jerk has for happiness. make sure you tell the little tart that he got pregnants parents that she is a homewrecker. Make sure you clean out the account. Take all his credit cards and run them up to the limit and take his car. Make sure you tell everyone he knows what he did. Try to find a way to get him fired from his job (after you clean out the bank account). Then divorce his ***. If you can come up with a way to get him arrested I would do that also.
2006-11-21 19:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We can tell you all day to leave him but in the end the decision is yours. Pray and ask god what you should. I know that it hurts and I'm so sorry it had to happen to you,but praying will help you feel better and it will help you make the right choice. You will get thru this i promise.
2006-11-21 19:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by k2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He DOESN'T love you.
If he cheats on you, what else do you trust about him? It's not a matter of intimacy, it's an issue of trust.
Remember who you were before him and allow her to live again, because she's always been your best friend.
EA
2006-11-21 19:18:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋