My girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. Because of the Bias court system she dont beleive in taking child support and taking a man for everything he has and going through the headach of doing all that stuff, my girlfriend would like to voluntary give me SOLE CUSTODY of the child and relinquish her rights so " quote on quote" "IF" she ever decides to leave me in the future that I would not be responsable for anything because I would have the child in my possession. So basicly it would all fall on her. My question is, we live together and want to stay together and get married someday and i dont want child support from her if anything should ever happen. Can this be done??????
2006-11-21
18:59:45
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Basicly what im trying to say is that, She told me that althought we both have "joint custody" at birth, that she would be willing to voluntarly give me "sole custody" and that the child would live with me and i would take over everything. She wants to tell the court system something like she dont want the resposability of a kid or she has to take care of her grand parents or dont have enough money.. bla bla bla or something to that effect, but in actuallity she would still live with me, but in the courts eyes she lives somewhere else, hence paying child support later in the future cause the courts are so bias. A friend of mine banged a stripper 7 years ago and the girl didnt want the kid so my friend got "sole custody", because she signed away rights or whatever. I see all these post about girls wanting fathers to sign away rights...now just turn the tables around!! Im in New York By the way.
2006-11-21
20:05:38 ·
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It depends on the laws of your state. However, the idea of giving you sole custody, but you both continuing to live together seems problematic. Either way, you would need to see a lawyer.
2006-11-21 19:03:33
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answered by Anon Tom 3
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This has got to be one of the strangest questions I’ve seen on here.
Are you talking about her relinquishing her parental rights or her custodial rights, because they are two entirely different things. Termination of parental rights has to be approved by a judge. I sincerely doubt you’re going to find a judge who will approve this. So that leaves relinquishing her custodial rights.
First, you can’t sign away custodial rights to a child who has not yet been born. So you can’t do anything now. Second, I urge you to keep in mind that her hormones are going crazy right now, so 6 months down the road, once she's bonded with that child, she may feel totally differently. And she may even feel that you took advantage of the situation. Third, if she does give up custodial rights and then continues to live with you, then IF you do eventually split up, I imagine it would be fairly easy for her to contest your little agreement. I don’t think it’s going to hold up in court.
Seek advice from a local attorney.
2006-11-21 19:38:02
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answered by kp 7
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Sounds very fishy here. I would get a lawyer and write up all the stuff as you stated and then both sign this agreement.
I don't even know if the court will go with it but you can try by having a legal contract.
I would watch my back if I were you. Your GF does not have her head screwed on tight enough. You are going to have problems in the long run.
2006-11-21 19:51:12
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answered by Mit 4
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thats weird for her to even say that it sounds like she plans to leave you anyway she may not even want the baby no women in her right mind would want to give sole custody if she doesn't already have plans joint custody yes sole custody no she doesnt want the responsibility of a baby im sorry i hope i'm wrong but that don't sound right if she leave you keep the kid you better think about it do you want to marry her? good luck hun
2006-11-21 19:44:29
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answered by k2u 1
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most states automatically give joint custody, unless she signs something legally binding. non custodial parents always have to pay childsupport, unless it doesnt go to court or the custodial parent signs a waiver of some sort.
if you live together, no one pays childsupport. not that i've ever heard of or read.
a lawyer can answer all questions and prepare the necessary documents. legal aid can help too, available in most counties, in every state. look in the phone book and make an appointment.
2006-11-21 19:11:23
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answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6
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Here's a solution. Don't split up. Get married be adults, this child deserves a father and mother that are committed to not only him but in making a secure future for him.
2006-11-21 19:20:54
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answered by Mom_of_two 5
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why are you even thinking that way in the first place you both should be excited that in just 2 months your duo will become a trio what you will be going through is the miracle of life just take one day at a time and enjoy what you have right now
2006-11-21 19:05:14
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes,just don't ask for it if it ever came to be that way.
2006-11-21 19:03:36
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answered by master_der_man 6
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i think it can be done as long you and her agree that
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2006-11-21 19:06:40
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answered by john doe 1
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