My life is going horribly?

Question

I thought my life was going to get better when I told my mom that I was a transgender, but it has gotten much, much worse. My mom told my dad that I wanted to become a woman, and he was weirded out. He goes to work at 12 AM every night, and gets home at 3 or 4 PM. I hide from him when he gets up to go to work, and when he gets home. I'm hating this lifestyle. I'm scared to see him because he thinks I'm weird. My brothers told him that I just wanted to stay young and I got mixed up, and they say he believes them. I want to start getting hormones and stuff, but my dad said I can start getting that when I move out, but I can't do that. I'll be too mature then, and I want to see a gender therapist now so I can get the hormones. I don't know what to do! Please, please give me a detailed response in what I can do.

By the way I'm 14 years old.

I'm homeschooled.

Answer 1

Listen to your Dad and Mom, besides you're too young and you may change your mind.

Answer 2

Find a therapist in your area that can help get your parents on your side. At the least, you might be able to persuade them to let you take a testosterone blocker until you're old enough to make this decision on your own. ncamedtech gave a very good link. I helped someone else a while back find a therapist in their area with the help of PFLAG. There are people and resources out there to help you, especially on that site. Oh, and whining will get you nowhere. I think this is the third time I've suggested PGLAG's transgender resources to you. There are people for each state on there that you can email to find a therapist in your area. I don't know your state, so I can't give you the name and email address of someone from there.

Answer 3

OK, at 14 you have a LOT of time before this happens. Grown men and women have to wait years before any of this happens. When you talk to a therapist about your wishes they'll probably tell you that you need to dress as the opposite sex and live as the opposite sex for quite some time before they even get you onto a next step. You're not ever going to be more mature... you're just going to have to wait it out. As far as your dad goes, you're a minor and he can't kick you out... if you feel uncomfortable just continue to avoid him until you're ready to talk about it. Maybe he'll make the first move. Your parents may not even be taking you seriously. If this is what you really want, I think it would be best to see a therapist soon so you know more about it. Good luck though.

Answer 4

I understand that its hard but you should just wait for now until you end puberty or turn 18 and move out of the house because then you wont have to deal with your lame parents and can do what you want to. Also it would be a good idea to get involved in a transexual group so you can talk about this stuff to people that actually know. GOOD LUCK THOUGH!

Answer 5

It sounds tough, but if you're 14 any transgender therapest, will talk to you, but not refer you for any kind of transgender treatment or hormone therapy, yet. Simply because your body hasn't stopped growing and nor has your mind. I'm not going to patronise you and say this is just a phase, but plenty of people do go through phases. If life has got unbearable for you then you need to go and see a cousellor, to talk about how you feel and what's going on in your head. Speak to your mum about it and she may be hurt, but she will understand if she loves you. Especially if you make her see that it will help life get on track. As for your dad, you can not avoid him forever, you need to spend some time with him so he can see you're not a freak. Try and do things that you have in common, it may be simple things and involve a bit of compromise, but the more time he can spend with you the more he'll understand you. If, when you are able to, you go for hormone replacement, etc it'll help to have your parents on side, but even if that isn't the case at least you'll have given them the chance and time to try and understand your feelings. Remember it is a big thing for them as well. I know it's frustrating not to be able to do anything about it now, in terms of thearapies, but trust me by communicating and working with those closest to you, it is laying some extremely important groundwork for the future. Good luck, my friend!

Answer 6

You are way too young to want this kind of thing. Answer this: Have you ever read the Bible or do you even believe in it? It stricktly prohibits anything gay or lesbian, as it is a terrible sin called abomination. It will only send you to eternal hell. My advice to you is to pray to God to release this demon that so posseses you. Is sex really worth an eternity in hell? Eternity means forever and from what I have read it is no picnic. You will not be around others and you will live in terrible pain of burning surrounded by demons and and ongoing thirst with no relief forever!
Please, take this very seriously! Turn around! Change your lifestyle! Accept that God made you a male and live with it. This is only a short time on earth! You could enjoy the love of the Lord God and the Lord Jesus Christ with everlasting life in Heaven, which is a beautiful place, so beautiful that you cannot imagine. You will never feel sorrow or pain or depression. God will wipe your tears and take away sorrow. Save yourself now! Repent and change! Don't let this short time on earth ruin your soul, and for nothing! Just pray to God, as he loves you and will show you the right way if you ask. I tell you this because I care. May God Bless You

Being home schooled is not always best for some, as I think children lack social skills with this kind of education. It works for some kids that can't stay out of trouble in school, and ones who simply would rather be at home, but if you think it would be best for you, ask your parents to let you go to public school, but don't forget to put God first in your life!

Answer 7

This is a great question for your school counselor. She will get you in touch with professionals whose job is to deal with people in your special situation. Go see him or her tomorrow say that you need to talk to an expert from the LGBTA or something. Also, google some terms and really learn about others in your same situation. Find out what they did. Be true to yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

Dear Allie, What I am sending you is the TNET mission statement. TNET is the Transgender Network. You have to realize something though, you are still a minor and the responsibility of your parents. I am sending you the website through PFLAG-Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. But PFLAG also has information and support for Transgendered as well. That means all stages. But above all, I would suggest as a Mother myself that you email PFLAG to send you some reading material. Sit down with your parents if your able too and speak to them about the material. And if you are able too get Mom to go with you to a meeting. Assure her that there are other Mom's there too. So she won't be alone. But you need to get support, not just for you, but for your family too. Give them time Allie, because believe it or not you have plenty of time. So here's some homework for you. Smile
The TNET Mission:
The purpose of this chapter shall be to support the mission of PFLAG; to promote the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through: support, to cope with an adverse society; education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights.


http://www.pflag.org/PFLAG_s_Transgender_Network.tnet.0.html

Answer 9

why not find a doctor that checks chromosomes
and hormones etc.

if your body is bent a certain way,
these tests will help whether mom and dad may have had
a girl , instead of a boy.

it happens!

Answer 10

i feel so bad for u. i don't know what else to say other than u r a minor and u can't make decisions on ur own until u r 18. so until then u will have to stick it out.