I need too much attention from my partner... What can I do to change?

Question

I am a very needy person. Somehow I need attention ALL the time!!!!!! If we are at home I usually hug him all the time and try to talk to him all the time etc...I don't know what to do and I am driving my partner crazy! He says he needs more space and can't take it anymore! Help!! We have been together for 2 years and I love him very much.

Answer 1

Develop some interests or hobbies that both keep you occupied and give you some fulfillment. If you are busy and fulfilled you won't need as much validation from your partner. Learn to feel good about yourself and comfortable in your own skin. That will help and make you a more interesting, well-rounded person.

Answer 2

I'm the same way. I have found as the years go on..I get more and more needy and attached to him. Just try to realize that the more you keep doing it, the more you're pushing him away...and thats the LAST thing you want!! Give him some time, find a hobby or something to do, don't hang out with him every single day, give him space when you're with him...he'll eventually miss it! ;o)

Answer 3

You need to take up a hobby or something. What you are doing is not only bad for you, but also your relationship. Everyone needs space (even you), but sometimes do not understand why.
Please do something and give him so space. I can tell you love him very much and apparently he love you and he is asking you for some space, so try to give him what he needs and you will find yourself in a much better relationship. Do it for yourself as well as him. You need to be more independent instead of needy.

Answer 4

you must chose to behave oppositely of what your instincts are telling you. You need attention, and come across needy, which in turn will push your partner away. So give the space they are asking for, and if it backfires, no big deal, because you would have pushed them away anyways

Answer 5

go out with your girlfriends or something. the holidays are here, why don't you try window shopping. go to the library and read all the new magazines or go to barnes and noble, have a cup of espresso and read something. why don't you try playing video games, anything to keep you occupied. the more you get needy/clingy the more he will pull away from you until he gets really fed up and leave you. also, you can go to the gym or something and stay there for a couple of hours and work out. you need to get out more, that's for sure.

Answer 6

I understand how you feel, you love him too, too much. You must be careful as this will drive him away. Get busy yourself, get a job or something if you are not working or find time to do something you love most. Go out with your friends and have fun. Do not stress him or yourself, if he is definately yours and he will always be there when you get back

Answer 7

Find a hobby that you have to do alone. I know what you mean. as I think of my future husband 24/7. I knit. Make knitted sweaters or paint. Learn to sew. Learn to do something with your hands. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

listen honey, get busy , get a hobby or get a pet to love and give all that extra love to. i think getting a dog will give u the mutual attention that u need without tiring ur honey.
if he says he needs time, let him or u will lose him totally

Answer 9

in all honesty.... if he said he "we need space" line..........your ONLY chance to get him back (because whether you see it or not) is going to be to LET HIM GO........ IF in fact you are a good woman.... he'll go out there- see that the dating scene isn't really whats its cracked up to be, and come back to ya..... (assuming you don't stalk his a$$)

bottom line: this is going to take time, and the more time you WASTE in trying to keep him (he's gone you just dont know it yet)
the less time you'll have with him if he ever does come back to you.

good luck

Answer 10

If you love him then back off!!!! You know that there is a problem so do something to fix it before you lose him.