I am married for 3 yrs. Within 1 yr of marriage we were blessed with baby.. my daughter is 2 yrs old.My husband wanted to leave job I wanted him to search for job and leave but he didn't listen to me and left job.As result he couldn't find job for 5months and we spent all our savings.Now he got job very far away town.He is there and i am staying alone with my daughter.He comes once a month and stays for week. My daughter makes house dirty when i start sweeping he quareels with me saying maid will come and clean. every time maid wont be available . maid servant will come for 1 hr daily and go.i cant keep house dirty. he roams in house with out banian(vests). He stands oustide and says he will give divorce. One day he went to our neighbours house with out their permission took their ball and started playing with my daughter. our neighbour complained me that she doesn't like any one entering without permission when i told my husband.He started pressing my throat. afterwards he said sorry
2006-11-21 17:35:39 · 18 answers · asked by jeevansandhya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he is starting to abuse you then leave it will get worse. he has no respect for himself so he has no respect for you
2006-11-21 17:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by friendjen2000 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your husband shows no respect for you and he is very abusive towards you. Although you mention he only started pressing your throat once, he will do this again and next time it will be worse. You have only one option and that is to get out of this marriage as soon as you can. Get family or friends to help you and leave him. If you can't afford an attorney, some lawyers will do the divorce and charge your husband for the fees. PLEASE understand, his behavior will not change, only worsen. You need to get on with your life and find some happiness maybe with a new man or just with you and your daughter. She is a Blessing to you and the two of you can make it. There are so many organizations out there to help women like you to get back on their feet from being in an abusive relationship. Good luck!
2006-11-22 01:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound good. Bad habits don't form overnight and they won't go away overnight. Choking you is a bad sign and perhaps one you should consider seriously. You are staying home with your child, that is fortunate and he's only home one week a month. During the other three weeks, look for some type of employment and then decide if you will stay with this man. If he continues to be abusive you really don't have a choice, you will need to leave to protect yourself and your child. The maid should be fired if she can't stay more than an hour. There are many maid services, fire her and get one who will do the job.
2006-11-22 01:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeevan....you are in a bad Hindu marriage. Get out. Your parents should have gone into his background more thoroughly! He is illiterate and bad mannered, You are not his chattel (belonging) /Dont out up with this behavior and if he presses your throat again go to the police and get him arrested for attempted murder. If you are too scared to do that inform everyone around you what is happening so that they are made aware and if there is any trouble they will call the police themselves. Get something to protect yourself and get yourself and your daughter out of this situation. Be careful at all times. You know, as well as I do, that some men throw paraffin on their wives and set them alight. Be very very careful of him.
Be grateful that his job takes him away from you and at least you can keep your sanity and also your house and baby neat and clean.
2006-11-22 01:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry ***!! You can do better than that....he is showing all the signs of an abuser....get out, before he does something he won't be able to say sorry for.
This is in responce to Incredible Indian: Living a life with this violent man is better for her daughter than being away from him and growing up in a single parent loving home? Get real!!!!
2006-11-22 01:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkin_spice 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sit down and think how he behaved before ....say when you were newly married! analyse how he behaves now! sit with him and talk openly for this is the supreme solution to probs in relationships.Ask him if he has any probs in his professional life which may be making him behave like this. tell him patiently once or twice.make him understand! men usually like admiration! u may use this as a tool!!!
see divorce may put an end to this relationship with our husband but let it be the last choice considering your daughter and the impact the separation would have on her when she grows up! good luck sister!
2006-11-22 01:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he goes away to work, move out without telling him. Cut all contact with this wierdo !
2006-11-22 02:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF this is a real question....Honey RUN, don't walk as far away as possible. You cannot change him. It will only get worse. Take your daughter and go to a women's shelter or to family or friends. IF he put his hands on your throat, that is a crime. PLEASE GET OUT!!!!!
2006-11-22 01:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cinner 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your husband is violent...guys dont change so dont expect them to...i would say leave him now before anything might happen to you or your daughter...get yourself out of that situation!
2006-11-22 01:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by shell bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds terrible , you can't change anyone though . Tell him he is not who you bargained for and tell him to straighten up or you are leaving .
2006-11-22 01:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, What you are explaining is common all over the world. Please dont try to change others instead of try to change yourself. My professor took 25 years to change his wife behaviour and the result is Zero. Now, he himself changed and living happy life
Don't try try to change others instead of change yourself. Think how you can change yourself.I am not asking you to adjust but suggesting you to change yourself
2006-11-22 01:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋