Sometimes, I'll like someone, but if I get this feeling they like me, I'll kind of "turn my back on them". Do I just like the fun on the chase, or is it a deeper problem?
2006-11-21 17:27:43 · 12 answers · asked by you're my wonderwall 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes it is a deeper problem with your psyche. You have to like yourself in order to like someone else! Do some Soul Searching, Honey!
2006-11-21 17:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Namaste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, yes. I used to do this all the time when I was younger. I think there are a few possible explanations for this behavior.
1) We are living in a disposable world. Once we get bored of something, we get rid of it and get something newer and better. For many people, this same mentality applies to relationships and/or potential relationships. After this person shows interest, you may begin to wonder if he/she is really the best you can do or if there is someone even better waiting around the corner.
2) Low self esteem issues. You may be seeking affirmation that you are a desirable person and that, gosh darn it, people like you! When the person you have your sights on begins to show interest, however, you start having doubts about them and the initial "high" wears off. One common thought during this time is, "What is wrong with this person that makes them interested in me? *shudder* " You may also loose interest and reject this person out of fear of getting hurt later.
Based on my own experience with this type of thing, I would have to say to go ahead, flirt, have fun. Work on building up your self-esteem and be careful not to treat anyone cruely. Being outright mean to someone will have negative self esteem effects and could come back to bite you later.
Seriouly, I think you are just a normal person trying to decide what you want out of life. Just wait and something that is "meant to be" will happen when you least expect it.
2006-11-21 19:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by phxflyguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to me all the time. It's normal to like the chase, or the anticipation of it more than actually getting to be with that person.
It's only a deeper problem if you meet, start dating, and as soon as things get serious you bolt every time.
2006-11-21 18:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 05:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you don't have a self esteem issue, it's just the thrill of the chase or more accurately, it sounds bad but it's like you are just trying to see what you can acquire. Youre trying to see how relatively attractive you are to people by seeing who you can reel in. This is normal especially if you are young.
2006-11-22 03:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by U2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just like the fun of chase,don't be paranoid.When you chasing something,that when your adrenalin at the highest but once you reach it,it slowly go down,well,let another race begin!
2006-11-21 17:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what you want, so when you get what you thought you wanted, you no longer want it.
You should outgrow this. If you don't (by 25 years old, I would say), you need to take it to another level of consideration. Clergy? Counselor? Psychologist?
I have a brother in law that is 56 and still has this problem. He is living, currently, with his fifth female companion.
2006-11-21 18:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had done this twice to guys who I felt liked me back but I was closeted at the time and scared to tell anyone that I was gay. I could even subtle flirt with them but just letting it be known that I liked them unless they said something to me, I never said anything. I had embarrassed them both in front of people and they both got upset that they stop talking to me. I had even told myself that I wouldn't mess it up with the 2nd guy, like I did with the first guy and I did it anyway. I apologized to him the next day but the first guy went months without talking to me. We were in school at the time and there was this dance. He had grab my arm and pulled me to go with him into a dance and I yanked my arm back and screamed for him to let me go. I think my reaction to him doing that could've been about something much deeper that happened to me. around that time.
2006-11-21 18:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just say, sometimes it can be harmless enough as really you either aren't ready for or not interested in any level of commitment in a relationship. That is fine as long as you don't set out to deliberately hurt anyone ad you can be as honest with others as yourself!
2006-11-21 18:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're such a tease! Sure someone's chasing you? Until someone says something, Its all in yr head.
2006-11-21 17:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋