My friend told me today that they cut themself. We are both over 18 so parents arent really a solution here, but I dont know what to do or say... I really dont want them to continue hurting themself...
2006-11-21 17:21:11 · 9 answers · asked by interesting 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a hard question..but if your friend didnt want help..then he/she wouldnt of told you. Talk to your friend and try to get out why he/she hurts himself/herself...once you got the answer then try to him him/her so they dont feel like they need to hurt him/herself...the reason why i cut myself in highschool is because i hated myself...i was taking it out on myself...he/she just needs someone to talk to and you should be there for him/her..good luck
2006-11-21 17:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by shell bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest the get professional help. If not an option you can talk to them about why. Does it numb emotional pain, is it just so they can feel or more like blood letting which is where a person cuts to see the blood and feel a release of frustration and pain, it lets it all out. I know because I'm a cutter and have been for years. I just recently got help but I had to want that help it's been 7 days and this is the longest I've gone. Don't criticize your friend it just makes them feel worse be there and willing to listen. They have to want to stop. Most cutters are not suicidal so just give your support.
2006-11-21 17:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your friends are hurting themselves because they are hurting. something has happened in there life to make them feel really depressed. See i was a fellow cutter. I got help though and i got away form the person that was making me feel bad about myself. People cut because it releases some pain and it feels good. Your friends need to either go to the hospital and get help or maybe some i&o treatment they also need to see a therapist. It dosent matter if they are over 18 or not when you cut that is a cry for help, so I would tell their parents.
2006-11-21 17:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by kristal930 k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way...do you think cavemen cut themselves? No because that wouldn't make any sense to them....cutting is a learned behavior/act. Why did you start cutting to begin with? You prob heard about it somewhere or from someone. So yeah you prob influenced her but it sounds like she's pretty impressionable, so no offense to you or her but it's both of your own damn faults. I just don't get why someone would do it to begin with....
2016-03-29 05:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. My daughter cut herself for years and it wasn't until she went through some intensive therapy that she was able to help herself stop. Nothing you can do can change her behavior, it has to come from her. Just be her friend and tell her you will be there for her no matter what.
2006-11-21 17:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, ur in luck because i just went to this whole workshop about people who cut and what u need to tell them is get a counsilor or talk to him/her. i would sugest call a counsilor. make him promise you he/she won't do it for the next 2 weeks, byt he time the 2 weeks are up, make another aggrement. one of the main reasons people cut themselves is becasue they are afraid they cannot feel and it feels good to them to feel, they're afraid that they'll lose all feelings if they don't do this. i dont understand it but that is what the teacher said. i hope this helps. good luck!
2006-11-21 17:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by @ |* ! @ n @ ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show you friend that you love, care, and are very worried about him/her. You can't force your friend to get help, he/she has to make that decision by himself/herself. All I can say is don't try and force your friend to get help, I think the best thing you could do for your friend is just to be there.
2006-11-21 18:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should find him a doctor or a therapist
2006-11-21 18:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of my friends cut themselves...
2006-11-21 17:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋