Will my 66 year old husband ever stop watching porn?

Question

I am 57 and we have been married for 14 years. During all of our marriage he continually seeked some kind of porno either tapes or DVDs, internet, cable TV. This is always done the minute I leave the house. He always hides it and thinks I can't tell. I catch him a lot and feel like my job is the porno police. He tells me he has been like this his whole life. Unfortunately he didn't tell me this bit of information before I married him or I would not have married him. He has made many promises and we have tried just about everything to stop his behavior such as counseling, no internet, cable disconnect, but nothing works. I'm ready to throw in the towel but the only life that I will be ruining economically is mine. He asked me to quit my job 5 years ago to retire with him. So I have no job and would eventually have no health insurance and guess what, I am no longer young. Don't old men out grow it?

Answer 1

we are living in wicked times...your husband is deep into vile things because he is being ruled by the spiritual darkness.

He must at once try to fill his mind with good things to take the place of bad things...it can be done..he has to read the bible every day..and associate with Gods people attending services in the congregation...have people pray for him...what has captured him is common now and everyone knows the trap he is in...pray for your husband to see the light before its too late

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It is very unlikely that he will not get over it. He is addicted to porn plain and simple. There are a couple questions you didn't address. Number one, are you benefiting from him watching porn? Because if you are then you let him watch. But if your not benefiting or your cutting him off that is an entirely different story. Because he will then be watching more porn and may look outside the marriage. This sounded abit suspicious since you said, this happens when you leave the house. Where are you going if your retired? Take him with you. Or stay there. Because it sounds like he isn't just watching porn but may be engaging in contacting other people otherwise why would he go to such lengths to hide it. If he is hiding it then there is a real problem. Have you thought about trying somethings with him that are maybe different that what you normally may do in the bedroom. Because he may be looking for something abit more than missionary style, if you get my drift. And without getting descriptive. 14 years ago you must of have done something to turn his clock, so what has time changed? Don't leave him over porn, if that is the only bad trait he has. There are worse. But it does need to be addressed and get creative with your marriage and grow together not apart.

Answer 4

Nope, he's not going to quit at 66. With the time he has left, you might as well give him this pleasure. Without judgment, what is such the big deal if he enjoys watching porn, as long as he's not out doing porn. Maybe try watching it with him, it might loosen you up a bit. If you're still up-tight, maybe a little weed will take the edge off. Relax and enjoy. Life is too short. Otherwise, quit complaining and just leave the poor bas****.

Answer 5

Lady with all due respect ur not draining the old man's balls. If u empty his balls 2 times a day he would not have any left to while watching these porn. All guys ever do on the net is surf porn, trust me. If his sperm ducts are empty biologically he will not be tempted for the need for sex (or for porn). By emptying his balls I do not suggest surgerically. u could give him a hand job & in a hand-job last what 4-5 minutes & he would have a smile on his face right through the day.Try it honestly.

Answer 6

Cant teach an old dog a new trick...he is set in his ways. Really its better then he go out and get the real thing. Just except it and watch it w/him...let him know you are okay w/it and you want to watch it too. That might just make it not so much fun anymore. Sometimes you want what you cant have and thats part of the excitement of him watching it when YOU leave. So pull those tapes out for him as you leave an go " bye dear...love you...enjoy and be ready for me when I get home". Be careful..he is older and this might cause heart problems..just kidding.

Answer 7

Throw away the tapes, DVD's, magazines, cut the cable TV, disconnect the Internet. Take off your clothes and be his live porn doll. Act out his fantasies, live life to its fullest. Any man would prefer live sex to watching someone else. He is not satisfied with what you are giving him sexually. Explore sexuality together. It will put a permanent SMILE on his face.

Answer 8

He is addicted. He won't quit. Sorry.... but that's the facts. To quit, he needs to find a support group that deals with it. They do exist.

A lot of "legal" things are addicted. Men often don't know until i is too late that they have opened the door to something that will control them.

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 9

you've obviously been told or heard it from some place that this is terrible to watch or look at its not evil my dear. Would you rather him go out and get it someplace else. or hang out at strip bars. he's in the comfort of his own home and wants to be turned on a bit. Sounds like your very old school and he needs some extra loving around there to begin with. Why don't you try watching it with him. don't worry you won't turn into sex maniacs. come on try it you may like it don't be a fuddy dudd. try something new you may like it.

Answer 10

To be frank I really can't understand what you're complaining about, at least it demonstrates that he's still sexually alive ! Haven't you ever watched the porn with him ? I find it incredibly sad that he has to do this in secret. Chill out a little and stop being such a prude and have some good and sexy fun with him. Good luck.