like saying I got 'me' shoes the other day...and I 'seen' the dog the other day....stuff like that. I makes me cringe and all i can do is correct him. I was brought up to speak properley.
2006-11-21 17:07:51 · 13 answers · asked by Leigh J 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes. You're judging him for how he speaks? Shall we all judge you for spelling errors too? Shall we think you lack education?
It's shallow and naive.
2006-11-21 17:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for asking this here! I interviewed my friends on this because I'd turned down two women because I couldn't stand how they spoke.
I was told that you've got to consider how it impacts a possible relationship between you. If you really can't tolerate the way a person speaks, you really aren't going to be able to be friends or anything else except maybe, just maybe, acquaintances.
The only other option is to convince them to change - which is impolite I suspect.
In my experience I've tend to avoid co-workers who drive me crazy verbally, and have difficulty with friendships and relationships in that situation...
Just my .01
-dh
2006-11-21 17:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being harsh. Think of it, "the other way around". There's always someone out there who is better than you. What if you fell for that someone. Suppose that they judge you for something so petty. It all boils down to who they are and what's inside. That's really what counts. More than likely, you will dump him because of his speech, and end up with someone who is very articulate and a complete asshole who cheats on you behind your back. Think about it. No body's perfect.
2006-11-21 17:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by ktkcj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you consider that cultural vernacular is or should be acceptable when relating to people on a recreational level versus speaking in the business world.
2006-11-21 17:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Raja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really like the guy for who he is, let him know that his way of speaking is putting you off. Maybe he will put in more effort when speaking to you.
But if you really can't stand him, then it is your decision. Nope, I dun think you are too harsh.
2006-11-21 17:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by friedeggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not being too harsh. either you're going to have to get used to it or you're going to have to leave him. speech patterns tend to be pretty ingrained -- imagine if he were trying to get you to speak very poor English. either you can stand it or you can't. don't ever, ever expect people to change who they are because of you. if you love people you love them, warts and all.
i don't think i'm harsh person, but my significant other will definitely know the difference between the subjective and objective case of the personal pronoun, and he will also know basic verb tenses.
2006-11-21 17:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by db 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time use spell check. anyway, no u r not being harsh. personally, if i am going to be with someone i want to at least understand what she is saying and not constantly correct her. it pisses me off. tell him to start going to English class more often.
2006-11-21 17:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it's a minor problem, but we all have our pet peeves...you are entitled to yours. If you can't take it - don't stress. You're allowed to "not take it" - but your best approach is to just stay away. My biggest pet peeve EVER is heavy nose or mouth breathing. I just stay away so I don't say something I regret.
2006-11-21 17:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him you will learn to live with the errors as iam sure you will ake them too he wont point them ouot as he has mannors!!!
nobody is perfect get out your glasshouse and live abit!
p.s i speak from expirence i have a boyfriend who sounds very much like yours! i learned to get over myself!
2006-11-21 17:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is nice and all and u like him but not his speaking, then just correct him but it is kinda harsh, he maybe just learning, or is use to it, correct him, just go date him
2006-11-21 17:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋