My friends are trying to get me and my ex-best friend Lauren to be friends again.
The problem is: I don't want to be friends with her anymore. I don't want to have much to do with her, and if possible I want to talk to her as little as possible.
Yet most my friends are her friends, and they are all trying to make us become friends again.
Awile back, when we were friends, we'd practically spend every moment together. As we began to spend more time together, I began to develop feelings more than friendship for her. She was the most amazing person I have ever met in my life.
Although as soon as I had told her of my feelings for her, she got scared. She stopped hanging out with me as much, and she told me never to talk to her again.
Her new friend verbally attacked me for being homosexual, and apparently 'stalking and obsessing' over her.
So now all of our friends are trying to force us to be friends again.
I just want nothing to do with her, cus I dont want to get hurt again.
2006-11-21 16:27:38 · 13 answers · asked by That cool kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
From my dictionary, friends r those who understand each other well & willing to stand beside no matter wat...
I think wat u r feelin is rite..if ur former fren didn't understand u..i don't think u should befriend her...Even if u befriend her...u will always have this notion "whether it is okay to say something or will she get offended by it..."
This is jus my point of view of dealin with this type of matter...
2006-11-21 16:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... are you sure those are really friends? And what does Lauren say about being friends with you again? Tell everyone to leave you alone, that you don't need them to help you make friends. Didn't anyone ever tell those people that friendship is a thing that can't be pushed???? It's not like matchmaking... geez.... tell them all to get a life
2006-11-21 16:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow if you aren't going to take time to answer this person seriously, don't submit some nonsense just so you get points.
Anyway, to the original poster, I would suggest you not be so inflexible. If you can see some good in her, try to get along. Rejection is a part of life--the parts of her you don't like (maybe her rejection of you) are quite possibly things you dislike in yourself (maybe there are subtle ways in which you reject yourself).
Remember, you're never rejected by someone you're truly meant to be with. And it's your life--it doesn't have to be so stressful.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 16:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by filmguy2678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your friends understand what happened?
it's not fair that they're trying to make you be friends with someone. One of the main things in life is that you can't make someone do something that they don't want to do.
try explaining to your friends your feelings on the situaton. honestly, they seem to be acting selfish right now because in a sense, they have to choose who they want to hang out with: you or her. And it'd be easier if they could hang out with both of you guys together, which is why they're forcing you guys to talk or whatever.
good luck and there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a homosexual.
2006-11-21 16:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a simple conversation with her explaining that the past is the past, and that any feelings you had for her are behind you, and that for the sake of your friends, that you think you should be able to be friendly enough with eachother to the point that you can all hang out.
The only thing is you have to ignore any feelings that you may have left for her.
2006-11-21 17:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by interesting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your good...let it go. A good friend would respect you for who you are. Your suppose to express how you feel towards your friends. If she has a problem with you admiring her, then theres millions of other girls out there that is just as cool that will accept having a good friendship.
gudluk!!!
2006-11-21 16:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn round to your friends to stop trying to force opposites together, that you've moved on and if they can't accept that too bad.
Just see what they say, they'll be surprised and it'll probably work.
2006-11-21 16:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got bored at line 2!
2006-11-21 16:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get past that,,yall may could be friends still but thats your choice ,,really.
2006-11-21 16:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is really sorry for what she done, maybe talk to her and see what she has to say
2006-11-21 18:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋