ive always been a bad girl- partying, hooking up, etc... and i always ended up with bad boys... until suddendly, my platonic love of all times (handsome, respectful, honest, hard worker, loyal) started calling me, and i got over my bad girl phase and realized i can still have a chance at being a nice woman... he fell head over feet for me and now were engaged...
1) i feel i dont deserve this guy, he seems too perfect for me...
2) does this mean something will end up bad in my relationship? i swear its one of those things its too good to be true... like of all people, why did God choose ME to have a perfect husband..? i feel something bad is waiting for me
2006-11-21 16:21:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something bad is NOT gonna happen... only if you let it.
Meeting this guy has come at a very crucial point of your life, you have realised that you have alot to offer the right guy, and you are letting your good points shine through.
Think of it this way, at least you have gone out and hooked up and done all sorts of crazy stuff now... its better to do it before you marry... you have experienced the wild side already, and you are through with it.
Some women dont realise they WISH they have experienced the things you have until its too late. They are married, have a mortgage, kids and jobs.... and its something they wish they had done, and sometimes is the reason why their marriages/relationships fail.
Dont be down on yourself, you are on to a good thing with this guy, its looking up for you!!!
2006-11-21 16:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe in karma. I also don't believe that partying and hooking up and experiencing sexuality is wrong or something that would be deserving of 'karma kicking you in the butt'. Negative attitudes towards feminine sexuality are something that we must fight against not accept and worry about 'karma'. I too partied and had fun. There is nothing wrong with being a so called 'bad girl' when your young. It makes you a much more interesting person. You've experienced a part of life that many women are too afraid to take part in. "Good girls" are typically repressed and boring usually the type to become housewives and stay at home moms. They are also the type to take sh*t from a man and to settle down quickly not looking or demanding the respect they know they deserve.
No one is perfect. If someone seems perfect, it is too good to be true. My lover is absolutely perfect for me, but he has many many flaws and so do I! We simply work well together. If you truly believe he is perfect, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. That's not karma that's your unhealthy attitude towards this man.
Take control of your life and responsibility for your actions. Karma as you refer to it does not exist. It's simply an excuse to let bad things happen because of some Victorian era left overs and guilt.
2006-11-21 16:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma is 20% guilt 60% Feud 10% Coincidence
2006-11-21 16:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you was wild and crazy. The key word here is "was". Keep it that way and he will keep you. You start doing you stupid stuff again, he might put up with it for a while and even give you a chance to straighten your act back up and if not....oh well...you snooze you loose. That is what a bf of mine did. He was like you and we met and straightened up, I treated him like a king, then he started back to his old ways. I gave him another chance again and he blew it. I left.
I do believe in what goes around comes around. But I don't believe in cheating either.
2006-11-21 17:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
karma happens with how you treat others. i kind of did a girl wrong and broke up with her, and right after that another girl did the exact same thing to me, same kind of situation. like they say, karma's a b**ch.
but what you're talking about doesn't sound like karma, just sounds like you got smart and gave a nice guy a chance
2006-11-21 17:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that your bad girl days are behind you, you should make sure that they stay that way. Stay positive and improve your self confidence in yourself, it'll make him easier to love you. Concentrate on being good to him but don't make him feel that you don't believe in yourself because you should and karma is nothing so don't worry about it.
2006-11-21 16:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll screw it up. Guaranteed.
2006-11-21 17:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋