Heyy All You Moms/Teen Mommy's Out There...!?

Question

How old were you when you got pregnant..?
Do you regret your baby?
What did you have..?
Do you wish you would've waited..?
Did the father stay with you..?
How old are they now..?

I am a teen mom and alot of people look down on me, but I dont let that get in my way..! I was 15 when i got pregnant and i had her 4 days b4 my 16th b-day..! I dont regret her one bit, b/c u kno what they say everything happens for a reason..! I had a baby girl, and yes, the father stayed with me the whole entire time and is still n her life today..! Sumtimes I wish i would've waited b/c it gets really hard! I'm now 17 and still in school, my fiance is still here and were as happy as can be..! Our daughter is now a year old..I'm just tryin to see how many other people who are like me.! Even if you arent a teen mother, you can still answer..!

Answer 1

How old were you when you got pregnant..? 17
Do you regret your baby? no
What did you have..? girl
Do you wish you would've waited..? yes
Did the father stay with you..? for a while
How old are they now..? 19

I believe now I had my first child entirely too young.. I was in no way shape of form ready to be a parent and made some mistakes that could have been prevented had I been a bit older and had more life experience myself... I do not regret having her she is one of my best friends now (we transitioned into more of a friend relationship than mother daughter now that she is an adult)... If however I could do it all over again I would wait a few more years before having any children...

I married her father and we went on to have another child when we were 19 (a boy) we divorced when we were 22 (amicably)... He was not ready to settle down and be a father (something he readily admits) , I was not interested in raising him in addition to our two children... We have both remarried since we have our 19 yr old and 17 yr old together... I have a 9 yr old with my current husband of 10 years and he has a 2 yr old with his current wife of 9 years...

Like I said if I could go back and change the timing I would but there is no way I would not want to have each and every one of my kids.. I can just see that I was far more prepared to have the youngest of my children.. I had grown into my own by the time I had her and was more prepared to not lose myself in being the best mother I could be... I was more financially stable.... and I was just plain more mature at 28 when I had my youngest as oposed to 17 when I had my oldest..

I commend you for staying in school at 17 you should be graduating High School soon... Give college alot of thought it would be a great choice so you can provide a more stable financial futurre for your child... Also it will give you something to fall back on should life throw you a curve and you find yourself supporting a child alone.. Get the highest education you can so you will always know you can make it on your own should you have to... It's the ace up your sleeve, your insurance should that curveball come... If you end up staying with your fiance forever it will help as well because you will be qualified for a higher paying job...

Answer 2

I was 18 when I got pregnant, and 19 when I had her. I don't regret it one bit. I probably could have waited, but I was finished with high school and felt that I was ready. The father and I got married when she was 5. She is now 17 and the best thing that ever happened for me.

I work with teen moms and I always tell them that it is hard, but life is hard. You have made a choice to be a parent (whether you expected or unexpected). However, it does not dictate you, your life, who you are, or who you will be. People are going to look down on you about something all the time, but don't let that effect you and your goals. No one, except your parents owe you anything. The same is true for your daughter...you and her father, are the only ones that owe her anything. So, you do your best to give her all that YOU feel she deserves - #1 being a lot of love, care, safety, and support; remember that you can only give her all of that if you have all that for yourself. You sound like you are on the right track. I will just say keep up the good work. Be blessed.

Answer 3

I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I had my little girl, the father and I had been together 6 years prior to getting pregnant but when I told him he stopped coming around so much and then didn't see him that much at all until I was in the hospital he was there in the labor and delivery he cried, cut the cord the whole 9 yards but when it was time to sign the papers "AS FATHER" he was gone as gone could be, didn't see him for a year and half later and he acted like he didn't know we ever had a baby together didn't ask about her or nothing, but I met someone after him that took her in as his own and we had a baby together trying for our 3rd child, no I do not regret her, but I wish I would have waited until I found my husband that I am with now because it made it wonderful and he is a wonderful guy. My little girl is now almost 4 years old and has not seen her "Father" in 3 1/2 years, but thats okay cause she has a daddy. ANY MAN CAN BE A "FATHER" BUT IT TAKES A MAN TO BE A "DAD" I am now 23 years old with a little girl thats almost 4 and a 8 month old son and my husband and I are trying for our third.

Answer 4

I was 15 when I got pregnant and had her when I was 16.

I have never regreted my daughter or any of my other children.

I had a girl at 16 another girl at 18 another girl at 27 and a son at 29.

At 16 I wish I would have waited I lost everything I had friends,school,teenager years,It was hard and I wish that other teens would take advice of older moms and think before they think they are ready because in all reality they think they are when they aren't.

No he left as soon as he found out I was pregnant and got some other girl pregnant so my daughter has a sister 2 months younger than her.

She is now 14.

Answer 5

I was 18 when I got pregnant, 19 when I had my 1st daughter. I now have 4 kids (2 girls, 2 boys) and I don't regret anything. I don't wish I would have waited because I am now 42 and my 2 daughters (now 22 & 19) and I are very close. We are great friends now and I'm still young enough to enjoy their friendship and go places with them and in time, grandkids. My husband and I have been married for 23 years and he is the father of all 4 of our kids. Our boys are now 17 and 10

Answer 6

I was 21 when I got pregnant, 22 when my girl was born. I've never regretted it, although I do often wish I had been in a much better position financially and educationally. I would love to be able to afford everything I want for her, and its hard work affording just the things we need. Like you said, I think things happen for a reason... I don't know if I would be who I am today without her, and she's only 20 months. I left the father when she was 6 months, he wasn't sure about having her and cheated on me the whole time I was pregnant. Our relationship was a mess. Out of 5 whole years, she's the only thing I don't regret about dating him; and I wouldn't change it at all.

Answer 7

I got pregnant when I was 19,gave birth months before I graduated college. I never had regrets about the baby, but my decision that time was so foolish and naive. I wish I had waited more so my daughter didn't have to go through hard times, like I wish I has a stable job already. No, her father and I didn't ended up together,he's happy now and so are we. My daughter's 13 years old now, I got married when she was 10 and now she has a one year old sister.

Answer 8

I was 20 when i got pregnant with my first child and 21 when i got pregnant with my second...i was 21 when i had my first baby and no i dont regret her one bit...i love her....my first child is a baby girl...yes i wish i would have waited because then maybe i could have gone to school with ease and not waiting until i make sure that my schedule at work is right and that i have babysitter just so i can go to school...no the father is no longer with us...he ended up moving to texas before my son was born....he was in thier life..like when my son had his surgery he was there..but now he has a new girlfriend and she basically told him to not call me or answer my calls so he doesnt....and my daughter is now 17 months old and my son is 5 months old

Answer 9

hello i was actually 16 when i had her i actually had her 2 days after my 17th bday. i don't regret my baby at all she was born with cancer and she has been fighting it sense she is now 3 and is doing great.i had a lil baby and then a yr later i had another lil . i mean in some ways i wish that i did and in some i don't i would give nething to of had a normal teenage life but it is a lil 2 late now. when my oldest was born her father was there until i was 2 months then he left with my best friend to help raise her daughter and then her got her prego as well. my youngest father i was with him 4 2 yrs before we split the oldest was a yr about and the youngest was a few months. my oldest is gonna be 3 on the 7th of feb and my youngest will be 2 on the 12th of feb. and i will be 20 on the 5th of feb.

Answer 10

I was not a teen mother but an unwed mother just the same. It says alot for you and your daughter that you are still in school and her father is still in her life. Sounds like you have it together :) Don't worry about what other people think just do the best that you can do for your daughter and teach her to do the same. Good luck and keep your head up